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Why Expectations are Necessary to Successfully Manifest Your Wealth

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Today we are going to be discussing expectations and how important positive expectations are on your journey to creating wealth and abundance.

What are Your Expectations?

An expectation is something that you believe is 100% going to happen in a certain way. They involve things that do not require you to hope or wish because, to you, there is already a definite result, for example expecting the sun to rise the next day or expecting your body to breathe out after breathing in. When you are manifesting something for yourself, whether it is a new job or house or wealth etcetera, it is important that you are also internalizing them and positively expecting these things to come to pass in your life. The more you look at your vision board and do not believe it, the more negative energy your doubts are sending into your atmosphere which eventually causes these fears to be created instead of your manifestations.


My daughter is currently preparing for her GCSEs and as a parent, I have been very persistent about what she needs to do and what she needs to study more but she surprised me one day when she explained that my constant worrying was only putting fear and negative emotions in her instead of having positive expectations for the outcome like I always advise. She made me realize that I had allowed myself to go into fear mode and my constant badgering about her needing to study harder and trying to push her more was only instilling that fear I was having about not doing enough for her as a parent onto her; now all I do is encourage her and constantly let her know how proud of her I am no matter her results, feeding her all my positive expectations instead.

Do Not be Afraid

The more desires you have, the more fear you allow yourself have about not accomplishing said desires. Someone asked me once why the desires you want the most are the hardest to manifest and I explained to them, like I am now explaining to you, that when you truly want something there is always that fear of not being able to achieve it or create it for yourself and unfortunately, some of us allow ourselves to lean into these fears rather than the faith and belief we should be having in our dreams. This is what causes us to have negative expectations rather than positive ones and eventually leads to these fears becoming our realities.

I was talking to one of my clients and she asked why she was able to manifest everything else she wanted for herself but not a partner, I explained to her that usually if you can create one area of your life, you can work on all other areas of your life. However, if you find that you are unable to manifest desires easily in a certain area of your life, it is very likely that you have some negative energy/emotions attached to this particular area. In her situation, she was dealing with past emotional trauma from her ex-husband and this was making her push the energy for having a potential partner away from her life in order to prevent her from experiencing heartbreak and betrayal again; it was not her inability to properly manifest a partner but rather her fears from her past experiences that were stopping her from leaning into the positive expectations for this goal even though she was able to overcome her other fears and accomplish all the other desires she had for herself.

Stop Creating the Opposite of Your Manifestation

The desires we want the most are usually the ones we have the most trauma attached to and the stronger our fears concerning these goals are, the more likely it is for the opposite of our manifestation to be actualized. Instead of leaning into faith, we allow fear to cloud our atmosphere which makes us unable to maintain the positive expectations of our manifestations; we lean into the opposite of what we desire and then end up blaming universal energy when our manifestations do not come to pass.

In both the Bible and the Quran, there are various examples of God revealing that he treats you how you expect him to meaning that God wants every one of us to have positive expectations of him. If you believe that God has all these amazing plans for you then why are you allowing yourself to lean into fear? I have found that a lot of religious people have become this way; prayers and reading religious texts have become more about fulfilling a daily ritual and less about the positive expectations that one should be having about these prayers, they bring their requests as empty words and leave without the faith that divine energy will answer their prayers. Why would you ask something from universal energy and expect them not to hear it? In every religious text I have come across, God always says if you ask he will give unto you but you need to truly believe and expect that he is going to give these things you desire to you or you will not receive them.

Conclusion

Even when your desire seems delayed, you have to trust in divine timing and that universal energy in their wisdom will give you what you have manifested for yourself. If you already know how to manifest the dreams you have then you are not dreaming big enough; start making impossible goals for yourself, goals that can only be solved by divine intervention and by universal energy’s involvement. Have positive expectations for these large impossible desires and watch your manifestations become reality in your physical world.

God is always there to help you but he will only help you based on your expectations. If you have a desire but do not believe and expect that universal energy is truly capable of creating this impossible manifestation for you then you will never be able to achieve that desire. The stronger your emotional connection and positive expectation towards a goal is, the faster your manifestation shows up for you in your physical world whether in a few minutes or a few years. The Law of Attraction will only give what you are expecting back to you, not what you are wishing or hoping for so believe in your dreams and in the plans divine energy has for you and let your positive expectations shape your goals into your new reality.

Do Not Tell God What You Can Not Do

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Today we are going to be discussing how you need to stop telling divine energy what you cannot do and instead start listening to them telling you all the things you can do.

Allow yourself to dream bigger

During my mastermind, I often ask people what they would like to manifest and something that stood out to me after listening to their answers was that most of us only allow ourselves to dream a little bit bigger than our current situations. And because of how comfortable and digestible these little dreams are, we do not allow ourselves to even envision anything bigger for our lives.

The reason we do not allow ourselves to dream bigger is that we do not truly believe that we can create miracles nor do we believe that divine energy is ready to give us the supernatural help we would need to manifest magnificent goals. Most of the people who invested in things like cryptocurrency and ended up forming companies like Canva and Uber have become billionaires over the space of a few years because they decided to dream big and found themselves in the right place at the right time.

We do not acknowledge our dreams because to us these dreams are too far away from where we are currently; For example, you find it impossible to ever fathom earning two million dollars because you are currently making only two thousand dollars from your job however you need to understand that the universe does not work with numbers but rather recognizes your energies and beliefs around your goal. Therefore, the more you believe you can achieve a larger goal, the more divine energy would create situations to achieve said goal for you.

You need to believe in your dreams

It is not just enough to dream; you must also believe in these dreams and listen to the conversations universal energy is willing to have with you. These conversations come to you in the form of desires and goals and God brings them to you this way in order for you to grow and materialize these desires in the physical world.
Unfortunately, when these desires come we allow ourselves to be intimidated by them and question whether or not it is actually possible for them to come to pass; We do not allow ourselves to even dream these desires into fruition. Personally, I am guilty of doing this and I began to think about these things when I realized that I had spent my time talking about cars I would like to attain yet I have never once sat to visualize my private jets, even though I have one on my vision board and it is something I want for my future. By doing this, I have allowed my current situation to put limitations on myself and instead pushed this desire onto my future self instead of visualizing and emotionalizing these desires regardless of the income and situation I am currently in now.

When these big desires come, most people either refuse to acknowledge these God-given dreams or push them into the future for their future selves to deal with. We find all sorts of excuses and reasons to look at it later in life, and this is because as humans we hide behind our self-made safety nets to protect ourselves from the possibility of failure. Because it is not something that can be attained now, we push it into the future and then allow ourselves to forget about them once they are not in our minds continuously. You begin to think that these dreams are too much for you, too unachievable for you, and instead allow yourself to push them away, forgetting about and limiting yourself only to the small goals within your comfort zone.
How long will you allow yourself to put your desires on hold because of what you are currently seeing in your physical world?

Your dreams and desires are not too big

Divine energy will always give you the desires that you can handle and whether you believe it or not, you already have the skills needed to fulfill these desires and create this reality within you. However you have to believe in them and believe that these things really can happen for you, your dreams are not too big!
Stop telling your God how big your problems are and start telling your problems how big your God is. Universal energy can create anything you could ever imagine but they need you to make that move of belief so that everything they have planned for you will fall into place.

When you make a move, you know that even when you make a mistake there is still room for you to change directions and improve on your desire. However, the moment you allow yourself to be frozen by the enormity of these goals, you lose hope in yourself and in divine energy. This is the reason a lot of people are wallowing in mediocrity and eventually fall into situations of lack and scarcity.

Leaving your comfort zone

Your comfort zone is that point where you have allowed yourself continuously become comfortable with being uncomfortable, it is the box you have placed yourself in because you believe you are too small to achieve the big dreams and desires that God has in store for you. This box -this comfort zone- will not lead you to a wealthier life; you have to consciously break out of this comfortable place, and to get out of this box you need to think and dream bigger for yourself!

You have the ability to create anything you desire because divine energy has already given you all the skills, abilities, and resources you would need to fulfill these desires. I was told a story once of a husband who was trying to answer his wife’s questions about creating her own reality but was unable to within his ability so he was reached out to by another man who was willing to help explain it to her, the other man advised him to place a 20$ bill in his wife’s book in order to solve her problem so he did. During the next lecture, the wife once again stood up full of questions and gently, the man asked her to open her book and hand him a 20$ bill. The wife continuously protested, insisting she had no money on her person at all, and ended up being annoyed and agitated even as the man gently asked her to just check her book and hand him the bill, finally she opened the book just to prove to him that there was nothing there but instead ended up surprised to find the 20$ bill in it. The man then explained this point to her which I believe is also applicable to all of us; if the universe is continuously repeating a desire to you it means that you already have the skills and resources you would need to fulfill these desires, even if you are unaware of it, so instead of arguing and complaining it is your responsibility to open your heart and search within yourself for these gifts instilled in you to achieve these dreams.

Conclusion

You are a creative being born with all sorts of skills and abilities to achieve these amazing desires for your life. Even though they may be latent or underdeveloped, God knows you have the ability to do so much more than you could ever imagine which is why they always believe in you, you have to now accept this and believe in yourself and God’s plan for you.

Instead of telling God what you cannot do, listen to what God is telling you that you can do. The moment you develop the belief that you have all the skills and resources you need to achieve whatever desire you might have, everything will rapidly begin to fall into place in your physical world. Your belief comes first while your manifestation comes second. As long as you believe in yourself and you believe that divine energy would never give you a desire that is impossible for you to achieve, you can create anything and everything you could ever imagine! Accept it, believe it, and act on it!

Poverty comes from the devil

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Today we are going to be discussing how prosperity is God’s desire for our life not poverty.

Spirituality and Money

My mother was a very pious woman but she had very limiting beliefs about money, she blamed money for most things and did not trust money at all. She always believed that everything in life comes from God and the only way one would be able to make large amounts of money would be through dubious means, which was something she and my father had big issues about because he was very wealthy and she was convinced he could not have been making it the right way. She was stuck in a lack and scarcity mindset hence the idea of all that wealth made it seem untrustworthy to her and unfortunately this was a mindset that was passed on to me. I found out later in life that my father’s business was actually quite lucrative and he was just doing the right thing at the right time. He had come into his divine prosperity but my mother did not understand that which was why she kept accusing him of having money through dubious means.

My mother’s ideology taught me that God loves poor people and that poverty is God’s way of testing you which was quite confusing to me growing up. Sadly, as I grew older and did my own research through other religious texts, I realised that this is a similar ideology that has been continuously pushed by various religions. Like my father I have always been goal oriented and had a progressive mindset, my mother on the other hand was very meticulous and calculating. She worked hard and prayed that God would give her enough wealth for her basic needs, no more; and if perchance she did get more than her needs required she always found a way to give that extra away. Even when she passed she made sure that her bank account had the exact amount of money we would need for all her funeral expenses because she did not want her children to have to support her financially in that regard.

From this experience with my mum as well as my interactions with other pious people, I have come to realise the more spiritual a person is, the less they feel the need to have money so they look for ways to limit their needs and push money away from their lives. I have worked with a lot of spiritual leaders and although most of them want to be prosperous in life, they seem to share my mother’s mindset as well; I inherited this unfortunate way of thinking which was why I became pious and religious just like my mother was when she passed away. So although I was trying to manifest an ambitious and wealthy life for myself, I struggled because I had such a limited mindset about money.

God does not hate the rich

God does not want you to be poor. We have somehow been told again and again that poverty comes from God and that any form of poverty that you are experiencing is part of life’s test for you. I believe that is completely false.
Life is a gift and should be treated as such; the trials and celebrations that you go through are just there to help you reach your full potential. The devil continuously places all sorts of challenges on the path of our life’s journey but the only reason God allows us to go through these things is so we can grow and be pushed to our limits till we skyrocket into our next level. Someone once said to me that any illness and poverty you are experiencing did not come from God but always comes to you from the enemy. In both Christianity and Islam, the devil who is our enemy has clearly stated that his main goal is to misguide God’s people and make them ungrateful for the life they have been given and his response to the devil was that those who were true believers will not be found ungrateful.

Why are you having more challenges the more spiritual you are?

Firstly, we believe that we deserve to be undergoing these challenging times because we do not want to be wealthy and this way of thinking unfortunately is ancestral programming that has been ingrained in our minds since birth.
Secondly, these challenges are given to us because we are being tested, not by God but by the devil who wants to see us complain and be miserable with our lives. Because most people do not understand this they are actively bending to these tests, their first reaction being to complain and feel sorry for themselves and this is how they end up failing the test before them.

God’s will is not for you to have challenges however everything that happens to you happens with God’s permission. Divine energy can see how the challenge you are facing is going to help move you toward your full potential and it allows you to face these challenges to unlock these hidden gifts within you that you would not have been able to see while you are comfortable and content with your current life. I have had to deal with many painful, hurtful issues and challenges in life but each of these circumstances has helped me grow and become who I am today. I know they were brought into my life with the permission of God, not as a punishment or an attack from divine energy but because they love you and they want you to do well and grow as a person.

Overcoming your challenges

God knows that you need to be challenged in order to leave your comfort zone and move to greater levels in life which is why divine energy allows you to be challenged by your enemy, the devil. God loves you and would never want you to go through pain however they want to see you push through them and provide support when you need it and as long as you continue to put your faith in a higher entity they will surely believe in you and bring you out of the challenge you are facing. You will only achieve your goal by having faith in divine energy and choosing to overcome these challenges and tests before you instead of letting them fill you with negative energy.

All the gifts you currently have in life, all the successes you have achieved and generally, every good thing that has come your way has done so due to one challenge or the other that you overcame in order to develop your character and reap your success. And the more faith and belief you have that divine energy will help you overcome your challenges, the more likely it is you will achieve your goals and come out victorious.

Stay strong in faith

The devil’s main aim is to provide challenges for you to fail and if you allow yourself to be weak in faith during this period, the devil will whisper all sorts of lies into your ear to dissuade you from the life you have manifested for yourself. You are a strong spiritual being and the only way the devil and negative energy can influence your life is through your mind; God gave us all free will under our own control while they control everything else that happens in your physical space.

The devil throws all sorts of trouble your way just so you can doubt divine energy and the support they continuously give you. He wants you to believe all these lies he is telling you and become ungrateful for everything divine energy has done for you so far; but if God will come through for you in one area of your life why would they be praised in another area? Divine energy is good at all times and any test you have to face, no matter how big, happens with the permission of God. It is your responsibility to deal with whatever trials the devil throws your way and hold on to faith that divine energy would always make a way for you.

In Islam, people say that whether you have money or not you will be tested in life; money only brings out the character that is already inside you so no matter the amount of wealth you have if you are listening to the devil you will never understand the concept of having faith and you could do certain things which could end up destroying you.

Conclusion

Hold on to your faith and your dreams. Remember that if you are going through a challenge it was orchestrated by the devil, not by God, but God has given permission for that challenge to happen so that you can have faith and overcome the problems you are facing. And no matter how long this might take, as long as you consistently hold on to faith in divine energy and the plans that they have for you, you will be able to overcome whatever challenge the devil would have for you. Be patient and trust the process, things will unfold in their own time.

No matter what you believe in you need to understand that there is a higher entity out there that loves and supports you and similarly there is a dark, evil entity whose aim is to watch you fail in life and every time you have a challenge, the devil is expecting you to lose faith and be ungrateful to divine energy but you must choose to be patient and hold firmly unto faith instead. Having money does not make you bad, do not let the devil trick you into wanting a life of poverty! God does not want you to be poor and they will not love you more if you are poor contrary to what we have been made to believe. Divine energy wants us to be prosperous in all areas of our life and it is your responsibility to achieve this prosperity for yourself. Take action and believe that God wants good to happen to you!

Why Faith in the middle is important for wealth

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Today we are going to be discussing the right way to have faith in order to create your wealth and having faith in your manifestations; whether it is in manifesting a partner, a business, a house, a better income, or whatever it is that you want for yourself. A pastor I listened to once taught me something that really touched my heart, his sermon explained that there are two points in time in every manifestation journey, no matter the context you put it in, when having faith comes easiest to you – faith at the beginning of your journey and faith at the end of your journey.

Faith at the beginning of your journey

When you are just starting your project or you are just realising your manifestation and you believe that the things you want for yourself are going to happen for you, that is a point when your faith is at its highest. It is when your dreams start becoming so real to you; you can see them, feel them, and touch them. This point is when you start seeing the possibility of all your plans and ideas coming to life before your eyes. At this point in your journey, your faith is at its maximum and you believe you can do anything. After all, why start the manifestation journey if you don’t believe it can happen for you?

Faith at the end of your journey

It is equally easy for your faith to be at its highest when your manifestation is finally coming to life. At this point, all the pieces of the puzzle are falling into place and you are beginning to see the clear image of the result of your goal. Most times, we even become thankful when we are nearing the end and start to show our gratitude for reaching the desired goal.

Why do you need to have faith in the middle of your journey?

In the middle of your manifestation journey, for example that online business that you are building with the hope of turning it into a six-figure earner in three years, the initial enthusiasm you had towards your new project starts to wear off and you are faced with the actuality of your manifestation. You begin to strategize and make proper plans to fulfill this desire; hire the right people, create the right ad accounts, learn how to post better on your social media and everything seems like it is ready to go. Unfortunately, life does not come without its challenges. Suddenly the ads you set up aren’t working, your Ad account got banned, your copywriter quit on you unexpectedly or a family member passed or something else happened that is no fault of yours and you are now faced with these external problems that you could never have prepared for. Your business just isn’t taking off the way you planned for it to. And now you realise that making a business online is more than just throwing some adverts together and making a plan, it takes understanding, different forms of strategizing, determination, and most importantly, faith.
This point in your journey is when everything begins to look impossible to you and you find yourself thinking ‘Oh my God, what do I even do now?’. And the thing about this teaching was that I realised it could be applied to any project, manifestation, or goal that you have in your life whether it is a business, a house, creating your wealth, relationships, or whatever the situation may be. When you realise you can make a manifestation into your life, there is always that faith in it that it would come to pass and the moment you are beginning to see the result of this manifestation, that faith in it returns but it is in the middle of the manifestation when your faith needs to be at its maximum that we come up short. And the reality is that sometimes things just will not go your way. Sometimes things don’t work out and there are setbacks, failures, all sorts of turmoil and as a person you have to learn to have faith in the divine energy even though physically you cannot see anything happening.
A religious example he gave, which I am going to use as well because we have similar examples in Islam, is the story of Joseph who as a teenager had a vision that he would become ruler of Egypt and shared this dream with his father. At the beginning of this manifestation, he was enthusiastic and believed in the visions and dreams he had. But how did he end up actualizing this manifestation and becoming the ruler of Egypt? He was thrown into a well by his brothers, sold into slavery, served a master for several years, seduced by his master’s wife, and then thrown into prison for several more years even though he had committed no crime; his middle was full of so many struggles and in the eyes of others, his dream was impossible. But even though nothing seemed to be going his way, Joseph kept his faith and trusted the process, knowing that God had given him that manifestation and that the universe had his back. Things were going to work out eventually. So he persevered and in the end, he was rewarded for his faith and submitting to divine energy.

Why is the middle of your journey so important?

When I look through my life and the lives of people around me, I realise that the middle of the journey is a point a lot of us seem to miss in our manifestation journey. This is the period when you have to hold on to your faith the most because it is when you have to believe that what you have manifested for your life will come to pass as long as you trust the process. Aside from submitting to divine energies and having faith in your manifestations, your middle part is the point of growth in your journey. It is the part of your journey when you grow into the type of person who can handle the manifestation you have in mind for yourself. If you are manifesting your ideal partner, the easiest parts are in the beginning when you have manifested the perfect person and you are excited about what is to come and in the end, when you have finally met the person you would like to spend the rest of your life with but the most difficult and most important part is the middle part when you are growing and developing into the person who is ready for the kind of partner you have manifested. Similarly, when you are building a business, you have to grow to be the kind of person who can handle the kind of business you have envisioned for yourself.
So essentially the middle part of your journey is not just for having faith and trusting the process for your project or your manifestation, it is also important for you to grow into the person who can handle and be in alignment with that partner, business, house or whatever manifestation you have trusted the universe for.

Conclusion

For you to create the life of your dreams, you are going to go through this middle phase when there seems to be no end in sight or light at the end of the tunnel, and everything you have manifested for yourself looks impossible but that is when you need to trust in the divine energy the most. And when things seem like they aren’t working out; you pick yourself up, change your strategy and try again. The times when you should have the greatest doubt are the times when you need to have the greatest faith because that is the difference between you who is making manifestations and other people who just have wishful thinking that never reaches fruition.

Embracing Your Ugly to Make Money

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Today we are going to be discussing how to successfully embrace your ugly in order to key into your wealth and, as usual, I am going to share a recent personal experience with you to help explain my point.
Making money for yourself is a journey and on this journey of becoming abundant and wealthy, it is important for you to understand that you cannot let things from your past make you feel bad about yourself or make you feel less than who you are.

What is your ugly?

Your ugly, in this case, has nothing to do with your physical features or the imperfections you believe you see in your mirror every day but are in fact those experiences and moments of embarrassment that you feel you can never get away from no matter how hard you try.

Personally, I have had to deal with a lot of ugly moments in my life and as a British-born Pakistani woman, there has always been some stigma attached to these moments from my community. I have been divorced twice and in both marriages, I dealt with some form of abuse – physical abuse from my first husband and verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my second one who eventually left me with the most trauma, emotionally and energetically; One of the things he said to me towards the end, after I had caught him cheating and he had confessed to various other awful things he had done, was that no one would say anything to him even after what he had done to me and all fingers would eventually end up pointing in my direction since I was the one who had been divorced before.
And unfortunately, he was right. People from our community would not care about the reason behind it or if there was something harmful about the relationship, they would just think ‘She has been divorced twice? She must have a bad character or she is rude or she cannot keep a husband’ and in the end, the vast majority would blame me. But even though I knew there was truth in his statement and that it was about to be my new reality, I embraced the ugly of both divorces publicly and now I can proudly say that I am a completely empowered woman, a seven-figure earner with multiple businesses and a proud mother despite it all. And yet there are still times when people, especially people of Pakistani or Indian origin, have judged me and expressed how they believe something is wrong with me.

Recently, I went to the Pakistani embassy to get an ID card since I have never needed one until now and although I had all my other documents with me there; I did not have any of my marriage or divorce certificates as I did not think it was something that I would need to portray my origin. Unfortunately, I soon realised that it was necessary information as this person began to loudly ask several questions about my personal life in the middle of the embassy ‘Are you married or single?’ he began, I replied I was currently divorced ‘Do you have your marriage and divorce certificates with you?’ I replied I didn’t have a marriage certificate but I had a divorce certificate for the first one which he did not seem to understand so I explained to him that I had been divorced twice. I saw the judgmental look of astonishment on his face and the way his jaw dropped in reaction as he asked questions about my kids and where they were from and proceeded to send me on a wild goose chase to produce various additional documents, all the while trying to make me feel bad in the process. He deliberately went out of his way to announce very loudly, in the presence of my daughter, how I had been divorced twice, had had two husbands, and had a child from each of the marriages to the entire room just so he could make me feel small and demean me in their eyes. And even after all this, he still refused to give me my card until I came back with my brother to support me, even though I had all the necessary documents for it in my possession which I found completely foolish.

Now although I have pretty thick skin and I didn’t really let his words get to me, my daughter was quite upset by them and so I found myself being reminded of my second husband’s words and how this man at the embassy had been so quick to judge me without even knowing anything about the circumstances that warranted the divorces. But what I realised from this experience was that I could either choose anger and hold a grudge against this person who means absolutely nothing to me or I could choose not to let the words of this person who acted terribly to me dwell in my heart, forgive him and send him love and blessings instead because in the end I did not need to have all that negative energy while I went through the ID card process all over again. The moment I forgave him and cut chords from him, I found myself showing compassion and seeing things from his point of view, even though he had treated me badly. Do I think that he should behave like that with any other woman? Absolutely not. However, I realised that holding on to animosity added no benefit to my life, added no success to my life nor would it help elevate my vibration in any way especially because, looking back at it, no matter how many anti-Islam acts my ex-husband partook in and no matter how much I did everything right as a good Muslim wife and mother, I was still ridiculed, shamed and expected to feel bad about myself over my ugly moments.

Accepting your ugly

At some point, when I had allowed myself to feel really sad about all he did to me and about people’s reactions to my situation, I began to ask devices energy why they would bring someone like him into my life in the first place. If the Quran says good women for good men and bad women for bad men, then how did I end up being married to someone like him? How could a man like him be my destiny? And as I always say whenever you are having some sort of dilemma, the best course of action is to find an outlet that allows you to work out these emotions and alleviate yourself so I prayed to devices energy; to ask them why these things happened the way they did and to centre myself through prayer.

It was during this moment of prayer that I realised two things. Firstly, how I allowed myself to feel was a choice, I could either choose to feel humiliated and upset about what happened or I could choose to let it go. And Secondly, I had to believe that everything that happens in my life happens for me not to me, so I could choose to be a victim or I could choose to be empowered that this was just a lesson or a test for the progression of my life’s plan. The traumatic moments I had to deal with were part of the process I had to go through for me to grow into the person I have become today. It was during this period of prayer that I finally received this awareness and I soon felt calm and grateful again, no longer feeling the need to question what devices energy had planned for my life.
The moment you begin to feel that energy of gratitude and love towards devices energy, you have elevated your vibration and when you find out that you are on that raised vibration, you realise that abundance and everything else on that positive vibration would begin to come your way. The moment you come into alignment with positive energy, gratitude, and love that is the signal you are sending out to the universe, and surely that is eventually what would be sent back to you.

Embracing your ugly

It is important to not only understand, but to embrace what has happened to you in your past. Because I was able to embrace all the ugliness that I went through in the past, I am able to talk about it now without any feelings of shame and embarrassment and most importantly, I was able to get rid of all this negativity coming off this individual, cut costs with him and even have compassion for him and where he is in life. Embracing your ugly allows you to brush off those awful moments in your life and accept them as moments of growth and empowerment for you.
Embrace and own those dark, embarrassing sides of your story and see them as moments that have taught you and led you to be the person you are today and the person you continue to grow into. When I look in the mirror I love who I am despite what I have been through, I admire the woman I see in it for both what she has achieved and how far she has come in her life, and if I love who I am then how can I allow myself be angry at the past which made me who I am today? All those moments which at the time I found shameful and humiliating were just part of my journey to being this person whom I love and am immensely proud of.

When you get to this point where you can be grateful for the good, the bad, and the ugly of your journey, that is truly when you know you are on the right track and that your vibration has been elevated. And the moment you realise that your vibration has been raised, amazing things begin to line themselves up to come into your life.

Conclusion:

Keep your vibration elevated, and the only way you can keep your vibration elevated is by continuously being in a state of gratitude even for the things that you should ordinarily not be grateful for. It is easy to show gratitude when things are going your way in life but it is important to show gratitude when you do not physically see those good results or when the shame of your past is being brought in front of you. Instead of being angry at the person that is trying to make you feel small, cut costs, allow yourself to send them love and blessings instead of animosity, and move on. When this incident at the embassy happened to me, I could have gone back into victim mode and allowed myself to get upset, yet I chose to forgive and move past this individual as well as show gratitude for all the experiences that have made me who I am today. And when you are in that state of gratitude and love, not just towards divine energy but to yourself as well, that is when you begin to open yourself up to abundance in all areas of your life.

Taking a leap of faith

Posted on by Gull Khan

Do you have control issues?

Are you afraid of not knowing, of uncertainty?

If you’re someone who is afraid of change or thinks you are on this journey of life all by yourself so your way is the only way, I have got you covered on this one.

Today I’ll be talking about taking a leap of faith and ways you can do this.

According to JK. Rowling “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all—in which case, you fail by default”

The saddest part of life is regrets, the “could have, should have, would have” , nothing hurts more like changes we had control over but did nothing about because of fear, you might end up the rest of your life, thinking of how different things might have turned out if only you had tried. I would rather fail than not live or at least try to live, because the regrets always sits with you.

Majority of the time, people regret things that they didn’t do, the chances they didn’t take. You can’t tiptoe your way to the grace, which is why taking a leap of faith is important in our lives.

What does taking a leap of faith mean?

Leaping without knowing where you land, it can definitely be a bit of scary, the fear of not knowing, but it could land you to the positives, quantum leap you to your dream life. The thing about life is, it moves even as we’re afraid of moving or procrastinating, it just never stands for one person.

It’s about knowing who you are, surrendering to all your expectations and trusting that a greater being would look out for you. Without risks, you can’t grow in life, Noone really knows what the future holds, you’re never going to have all the answers yet we continue to move forward

How do you distinguish walking blindly and taking a leap of faith?

Faith has to do with a strong belief in the supernatural, in something above us, something higher than us, it could be God , Brahman, the universe, your intuition and trusting that our interests are protected.

When you have a vision, you take a leap of faith and trust that taking this step could propel you into where you’re destined to be. That something above you will guide you despite your fears. Leap of faith doesn’t eliminate fear in its entirety, it supports and carries you to move despite the fear and the hurdles you might encounter.

There’s always a reward for faith, for entrusting and submitting yourself to the divine energy. Everything that is happening, is happening for you not just to you. You have to trust divine energy, even when you think you’ve failed, when your plans go as you have expected, you have to take something out of it, you don’t come out the same person, you’ve been made into magnificent version of yourself which is going to fulfill your divine purpose, the divine plan.

Everyone has divine purpose that you’re here to fulfill, and in order for you to fulfill that purpose, you have to have certain characteristics or personalities and the things you go through in life, the failures, the ups and downs are all geared to make you the kind of person that you need to be in order for you to fulfill your divine purpose to live your destined life.

See your life as a gift, and everything that is happening to you is preparing you for everything you desire but in order for you to obtain this, you have to go through certain paths. Do it the divine energy’s way.

5 ways to take a leap of faith

1. State your intention clearly;

Have an idea of where you are going and be intentional. Your intentions acts a compass, a beacon of where you want to go. You need to have intentions of what you want placed, it grounds you and sets you on the direction that you’re going. You can’t get what you want unless you know where you’re going to get this.

For me, I knew I wanted to have a business, an online business because I wanted to stay close to my kids. Initially I was working generally as a coach, I realized that as an energy healer, I’m a lot more powerful and instead of focusing on health which I was very good at, I focused on money.

Remember your intentions are not here to box you but rather guide you. So even as it grounds you, it’s flexible enough that you walk in whatever route the divine energy sets you in.

So setting clear intentions are very important, you have to ask yourself;

What exactly do I want to do?

Do I want to build my own business or to work for someone?

How much would I like to earn, monthly or annually?

How much of my time am I willing to commit to this?

It all starts with a clear intent.

2. Consent;

Once you have laid out your intentions, the next step is to surrender to the outcome. You cannot decide where you want to go, in which direction you want to go but how you get there is mostly up to divine energy.

Like how I decided recently that I wanted to have multiple businesses. I already have the coaching, which I love and I have my property business and my trading going for me and I wanted to have another additional business but I wasn’t really sure what direction to go in. So I asked divine energy to show me what other niches I could create for myself and a few have been brought to my attention.

And that was it. I asked divine energy for guidance on how to get here. My intention was to have multiple sources of income and a lot of channels has been made shown to me.

If I can try this, you can do that. All these different opportunities that I got awareness for are simply because of this intention that I set up and surrendered to. So the destination isn’t yours to decide, You just have to have the intention, ” I want to go in this direction”. What exactly is going happen and how you’re going to get there is for divine to show you.

Allow the universe to show you the best path to get your intentions. This is what it means to surrender to the outcome. You need to give yourself the flexibility, open yourself up and to receive your intuitive guidance from divine energy. Letting divine energy guide you is very important.

3. Look for Signs and Synchronicities;

There’s always a sign. When you ask divine energy for help or guidance and you ask for a sign to show you which decision to make, you’ll be given signs. So recently, I asked for a sign that I’m on the right path and that I’m doing is what I should be doing and all of a sudden I started seeing double ones, the time at 11:11 and day at 22|22 and all these double digits on all the time, all the time.

So I’m taking that as a sign that I am doing what I need to be doing. So when you see these signs, you know that you’re on the right path and that your faith is being acknowledged and you are being guided onto the right path. That’s the third way for you to take a leap of faith.

4. There’s no perfect time;

You need to actually understand that you’re never going to be fully ready, your ducks are never going line up. You are never going to have the right opportunity, the right time, the right place at the same time. There is always going to be issues, with your health, or kids or partners, that’s life. It’s never gonna be the right time. So there’s going to come to a point when you just have to take the jump. So you have to jump before you’re ready, there’s nothing as leaping too early, only the fact that maybe you don’t leap at all.

A lot of the times people instead of leaping with faith early, they don’t move at all, they just sit there, procrastinating on the edge of the mountain. The next thing they know, they are turning 80 or 90 and they feel it is too late for them now.

I think of time is the only thing we have scarcity of. You can make everything else, money but the only thing that we have a limited quantity of is time because in this our world, we do have a limited time and we don’t realize how quickly the day become weeks and weeks months then years.

And next thing you know, you are thinking about something you wanted to do five years ago and haven’t even started yet. I remember this happened to me, I started my podcast in June 2020 but I had been yearning and talking about it since 2018. It literally took me two whole years, just talking about it and I never got started. And then COVID happened and during the pandemic, I thought, my god, I have to start now, and we begun. We’ve gone from strength to strength, ever since but it’s amazing that I was stuck there for the longest time because I was procrastinating. So you have to jump before you’re ready.

5. Faith;

The one final way to do this is by trusting and believing, your faith will hold your hand through the darkness. You need to know that divine energy is always there through it all, for every step of the way. There’s a story that comes to mind at this moment and that’s it’s footsteps.

This person looks upon her life and notices that most of the times, there were two sets of footsteps in the sand but for the darkest times in her life, she could only see one set of footsteps and it was really painful so she turns to God and she says “God, that’s so unfair. How could you do this?”

And God was like, what’s wrong? And the answer is well, you know, in the times of my darkness and my darkest hour, you left me alone. There’s only one set of footsteps there so that means I was alone. And God turns around and says to this woman “My child, the reason why they’re only one set of footsteps in those moments is because during those moments of hardships, I carried you” . And that story has always stuck with me, it really resonates with me because that’s kind thing that I would think God would say to me, “Look, that’s when I was carrying you, you didn’t have the energy to walk”

And I know there are many times in my life, where I’ve literally broken down and cried to my God to take over that I have no strength left in me. When I took the decision to divorce, I was taking a leap of faith that divine energy will provide for me, I literally came very close to bankruptcy yet I held onto my faith that divine energy will see me through and guide me, this was back in 2016 and I’m writing this in 2022. So six years ago, I caught my ex husband having an affair and my life changed, I just had this faith in my heart that no matter what happens, God will get me through and I will find a way to provide for my kids and that I’ll make sure I give them the kind of education that I want to.

I took that leap of faith and I have been rewarded. I have to say it was not an easy journey moving forward. If I look back in hindsight, everything that happened created me to be the person I am today and today I have multiple businesses. I am doing phenomenally well, my kids have access to private education and we have the luxury of not worrying about bills.

I’m in a privileged position to be able to do it myself but this only happened because I took the leap of faith and trusted divine energy to show me a way to be able to make enough money to not only look after my kids but provide them with the best life possible and give them the most important thing for ne which is love and attention from their mother by not going out to work and I am doing it on my own terms.

Conclusion

Taking a leap of faith and trusting the divine energy to show you what to do and how to do it will never let you down. That even when you fail, it’s a preparation for the grandeur things that are to come. You will pick yourself up and divine energy will guide you to move to the next level.

Taking a leap of faith is most times, the best thing you can do.

The six top lessons from the lord of rings trilogy

Posted on by Gull Khan

Everyday moments serve as lessons and reminders to us.

Over the weekend, I watched lords of the rings trilogy and I picked up a few lessons that are quite applicable in our daily lives when it comes to becoming wealthy, abundant and successful in our life. We all have dreams and purpose, we will be making a dreamboat and talking about our vision, I have been helping my son and my daughter create their vision boards and I created my own as well and updated a lot of things because I had really achieved some of the things from my vision board last year and the year before, I really upleveled my vision board.

Sometimes we get stuck while creating a vision board because we wonder how we are ever going to achieve it or make that happen and our ego takes over and our lower self esteem comes into play and convinces us to think that the vision is too big and we are too small to achieve them.

 

 

Six Lessons From Lord Of The Rings;

1. Underestimating Our Capability

We all underestimate our capabilities and I know for a fact that I did and this is where the imposter syndrome comes and attacks. Even the most successful people in the world, these big actors, doctors, lawyers, politicians, and business people underestimate themselves sometimes. If you look at the interviews of some of the most successful people like Elon Musk, he’s very open and really believes in himself but he is not immune to this imposter syndrome too. This is why It is really important for us to put things in perspective.

In Lord of the rings, little hobbit Frodo was given this mammoth task of taking a ring across and destroying it while fighting demonic creatures, orcs and he had no idea what he had gotten himself into, it was a task which he felt compelled to complete. It is important for us to understand that whatever dreams or desires we have in our hearts are not just mere desires, if you tune into your desires, those desires have been given to you by divine energy, those desires are important because the journey that you need to go on to make those desires (getting that degree, getting a car, getting into the next level in business etc) a reality is what the universe is after, it’s not actually the car or the house but the journey that you would go through, the transformation that your spirit will go through in order to obtain those dreams, that’s what the divine energy is interested in. This is why the desires you have are actually given by divine energy and it’s not just a random thing.

If you have a true desire to attain or obtain something, that desire has been given to you as a gift from divine energy and the path to obtain it would be shown to you even if it’s just an initial journey.

When Frodo (in the movie) was given his task, he had no clue how to get to where he needed to go or even aware of the difficulties that would come on the way or the help that would be given to him on the journey, but he carried on with the task so it is important for us to remember that we completely underestimate our capabilities, who we are and what we are. We see ourselves as this tiny things against this big universe which is against us, that everything is against us. If only you see your potential (there’s a lot of potential in this tiny fingertip of yours) then you’ll learn to see how powerful and amazing you are. I always say this, you are a created being in a body and if this is true then you have more potential than anybody else around you that you can see.

I am not saying that you have more potential than somebody else, I am saying that you have more potential than anybody else around you because nobody actually uses their full potential. You are much bigger and you have hidden potential within you.

2. Enjoy The Journey

It does not matter how difficult the journey or task is, if you are just interested in the final destination, you will miss out on most of the journey if getting to that final stage or whatever number it is, is all your focused on because the fun is actually in the journey and it does not matter how difficult or cumbersome it becomes, you need to enjoy all parts of the journey sometimes when it’s really difficult, you may not enjoy it but you can still be optimistic.

In the Lord of the Rings, I think Sam, Frodo’s best friend is a true hero because if it wasn’t for Sam, Frodo wouldn’t have accomplished his task. Frodo did actually fail at one point when he decided not to throw the ring and destroy the ring. He took the ring and he tried to keep it, if it wasn’t for Sam that picked a fight with him, he would not have completed his task so Sam was true to his friendship with Frodo. He is actually the character that came through. You need to enjoy the journey and you have to be optimistic.

Yes, things will be difficult, there will be times when you want to sit and cry, there will be times when you want to give up but you need to understand that journey is part of the experience, most of the experience would be the journey and the lessons you learn, the character development you have.

If you have been given a goal to get a Bentley, the task which is the desire you have been given is to get a Bentley but that is just a final destination, the path that you will walk on in order for you to get the Bentley is what divine energy is interested in. If all you are interested in is getting the Bentley, you forget about how you are going to get there, you will be prone to take the wrong path especially when it comes to money.

There is no limit to the amount of money you can make but I do want you to pay attention to the path that you take to get the money, getting money through the wrong means is not what we are after, we are after high vibration money. Pay attention to the journey and make sure that you enjoy the journey and be optimistic, Nothing worth achieving comes easy, We human beings really don’t appreciate things that comes easily to us, anything worthwhile achieving is meant to be hard because universe knows if it makes it easy for you to obtain that thing, you will not value it. So blame your psychology, blame your makeup but things are not meant to be easy, if it is easy, you will not appreciate it.

3. Take One Step At A Time 

In the movie, Frodo had to get to the other side of the mountain, there was a valley full of orcs and he has no idea how to cross that valley to get to the other side so as to destroy the ring. Sam tells him that miracles do happen and that they should take it one step at a time, “Let’s climb down the mountain first and work out how to cross the valley after”

I love this because there will be times when you have no idea how you are going to get from A to B to C to D, what you need to do is just work out how you get to B from A (the first part of the journey) and the rest will be shown to you as you progress, life generally works if you set a goal. If you set a goal and you know how to get there then the goal is probably not big enough, it’s not pushing you enough. You need to set a goal for yourself which is going to absolutely push past your comfort zone, they all had to climb down that mountain and get to the valley and then work out how they were going to cross past all the orcs that were on the journey.

Take one step at a time, If you look at how great your journey is and you can’t even see half the time how long it will take you to get to a particular destination, you will be overwhelmed and you will fall back, you will not have the stamina, the courage or the strength to carry on but the best way is to focus on the task at hand and think about moving just the 1-10 steps that you can see at the moment, Don’t worry about where you will go after because as soon as you cross the first initial steps, you would be given instructions on how to move from there onwards.

So have faith in divine energy, in the process that once you have completed the task at hand, you will know how to move forward from that point. On this journey of creating and having wealth, when you have no idea how to move forward when business goes belly up, all sorts of things are going to happen and that is absolutely part of the journey.

Frodo and Sam were exhausted, completely exhausted and they could barely keep up. The final hurdle is usually the hardest, there is a saying in our culture that the night is the darkest just before dawn, which means the last section is always the hardest. This is where you have to muster up every little ounce of courage and carry on. I have noticed recently when I am doing my son’s 11 plus exam, I have been working with him and it got to the end when he was not performing, I almost gave up and thought that I really couldn’t do it but I did not give up, It’s okay to stop and rest but it’s not okay to stop, it’s not okay to give up, so I rested, started again and we are gradually coming to the end of it.

Whatever happens, I know I have done as much as I can to support my son, my son has done the best he can as a 10 year old and divine energy will help him to be successful, if nothing else I have made a very strong base for him to go to secondary school.

The point here is that you have to carry on. You have to complete the task, far too often, we are three feet from gold and we give up.

There is a book called three feet from gold about a guy that found out there was a lot of gold in this particular cave when they were doing the gold rush, he got people around him and invested a lot of money and went digging for gold and they only found a bit of gold. Unfortunately for him, before he recovered all the investments and equipment, the gold thread finished, there was no gold left and he was very disheartened and disappointed.

He was financially in a lot of stress, Instead of carrying on, he did not think logically and left, selling every equipment to somebody else. Now this other person who bought it thought logically and actually got an expert in the field to observe what was going on.

This expert told the new owner that archaeologically or scientifically that there was a gap between the thread of gold, three feet on from where the old owner had stopped digging, when he started digging three feet on from the point,the gold thread opened up and there was one of the most profitable gold mines of their region. This story illustrates that you cannot give up, you cannot stop midway. There’s another saying that God doesn’t bring you this far just for you to be this far. You will have moments when you want to give up, you will have moments of despair but you have to carry on.

4. Complete the task

You have to complete the task, it does not matter where you are or how hard it is, you have to muster up every ounce of your courage, strength and stamina to make sure you complete the finish line. You don’t stop before the finish line .

5. Surround yourself with the right people

It is very important to surround yourself with the right people. In this Lord of Rings, I don’t think Frodo would have gotten anywhere without Sam, Sam was crucial towards the latter part of the journey because he kept his strength and his spirits up even at a point he had to carry Frodo on his shoulder up to the mountain because Frodo ran out of energy. Sometimes you have these friends who cannot do what you need to do but they carry you on their shoulders, they can’t carry your burden, but they can carry you. I think that is such a beautiful line when Sam says “Frodo, I cannot carry your burden but I can carry you” , you need to have those friends with you who can carry you further.

I think there are people that carry me at times and they have carried me through my darkest moments. You need to have these few friends. I don’t have a million friends, I am very social and I have loads of acquaintances and people that I am friendly with but I’m not friends with many people. I choose my friends very carefully, the friends I have are amazing, they have carried me through and that’s all I need, we all need friends who would be loyal and genuine. You need to have one friend like Sam who is going to be there to hold you.

And these friends could be a partner or spouse. You’re lucky if this person ends up being your spouse, your boyfriend or girlfriend even if you don’t have a partner, you can have a friend who can be there for you, I think every single person in the world should have a Sam in their life.

6. Divine Energy

When everything is falling apart, we forget we have divine energy. We think miracles can happen for other people but they cannot happen for us whereas miracles happen for you all the time, I’m also guilty of that. Now when I see a miracle happen, I acknowledge it and I thank Divine Energy for it and If you are religiously inclined, you can believe that God will make a way for you. He will show you a pathway that you haven’t seen yourself, parting of the seas like God did for Moses, Miracles can happen for you, like they happen for other people. We as people, we dismiss ourselves too much,

“I’m not so special, Why would God create miracles for me?” My question is, why not, you are just as wonderful as the next person, as every person on the planet. Why would device energy not create miracles for you?

Still using Lords of the rings as an illustration, when the lava was coming down the mountain, Frodo and Sam were stuck on this piece of rock and had no idea how to get forward. And they thought that time was up, Gandalf the eagle came and carried them away, miracles happen, all the time. So you should expect miracles to happen for you especially when there is no way out.

Conclusion

Have a clear understanding of who you are and all you are capable of.
Never underestimate who you really are, enjoy the journey.
It’s not just about arriving at the destination, the journey is just as important as the actual destination.
Take one step at a time, the longest journey begins with the first step
Always complete your tasks, don’t leave things undone.
The final lap is always the hardest, It requires so much strength, courage and stamina but with your friends (tribe) by your side, you will scale through. Expect miracles everyday of your life.

The true meaning of Wealth

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What does wealth really mean to you?
Why is wealth important?

“True wealth is not measured in money or status or power, It is measured in the legacy we leave behind for those we love and those we inspire”

This quote from Cesar Chavez really touched my heart and I thought about what I’m trying to create in my life or inspire people to. I am all about creating wealth for yourselves, abundance in all areas of your life, health, relationships, metaphysical and physical wealth. I want to have the car, the house, the life that you could possibly imagine, access to make great choices that you could possibly have, everything that money can buy for you and more.

 

Why is creating wealth important?

I tend to attract audiences or people who are similar to myself, it’s not just about creating wealth. You want to create generational wealth, a legacy that you can leave behind once you pass on to the next dimension. It’s much more grander than your own physical need, it’s really not just about the car or house or the success that comes to you, It’s about creating that legacy and leaving that activity behind, inspiring others through your legacy and your work. This is what true wealth means to me, unfortunately we get so tied to the physical aspects like the car, house, fame that we forget what we are really working for. How much money do you actually need to live the life of your dreams and if you sit and work out how much money you need to live comfortably and happily, It will be nowhere near the number that you’re striving to get to.

A lot of my needs are actually quite modest, food, clothing, a nice car and a decent house to live in, access to good education and healthcare. Even though I don’t have any lavish lifestyles, don’t gamble or drink, my needs are going to be modest compared to most ambitious People, yet I am working towards a number which might be a thousand times more than that amount that I actually need, this is because I want to leave a legacy behind. I want to create something that’s bigger than myself, I want to be remembered for something, a legacy through my work, it’s about helping others and inspiring others to live their best and fullest life.

There are times when I ask myself why I work so hard, why I want to achieve xyz. It’s not because I want the name and the fame, I’m not an egotistical person. It is very nice to get praises but it’s not what drives me. I connect with money in its spiritual form so I’m not attached to money in its physical form. What is it that gets me going? What makes me work 10 times harder than anybody else? What keeps me going when I want to give up? In those trying times when I’m exhausted, I have my goal in sight, I’ve cried and persevered through because I remember my vision, what wealth means to me. In the past, I have said that my children are the purpose but honestly my kids don’t need that kind of money either.

The meaning of wealth can be different for everyone just as the legacy one leaves behind is different for everyone. I have a particular legacy in mind that I want to leave behind for my two children, I have other things that I want to create not necessarily for myself but also for other people, some charitable organizations that I want to support, projects for young women especially in the South Asian continent. My family is from Pakistan, my parents were born in India so I have this strong affiliation with India, Pakistan and Bangladesh as well, I know of the plight of young females from South Asia and this is part of the reason why education is so important to me because it opens your mind and gives you the ability to deal with life in ways differently. Wealth to me means having the freedom of choice and ability to help who I want to help, to be able to do the things I want to do in my short life while inspiring people around to live their fullest life too.

My children are my one motivating factor, they are both in university now, I’ve pretty much completed the task of raising them but that’s not all I want to do but I find myself creating extra opportunities because I want to leave a legacy behind, my wealth is not going to be measured with how much money I have in the bank account or how many cars or houses I have. My wealth is going to be measured in who I’ve helped, what I have helped them achieve both through my works, my money and my inspiring story. My life has been a roller coaster journey from the age of five, my mother finding out about my father remarrying, being abused, my brother going to Juvie, my mother passing away and living with an abusive husband in my various marriages, yet I have carried on moving forward. I think every part of my life can inspire someone else, this is why I share everything about my life so openly, I have made mistakes, I have learnt and grown from it. There is a reason why my life turned out the way it did and maybe my story can help people and inspire them.

Financial success is simply a stepping stone to creating the kind of legacy that I want. In order for you to have the freedom to choose to do what you want to do, you have to have the financial freedom behind you, When you don’t have to worry about the rent, the mortgage, the car payments, the food payments, and the utility payments, then you have freedom to choose what else you want to create with your time and the people you want to have in your life.

If you are currently struggling with connecting with financial wealth because this is not why money is important to you, I want you to think in grander terms and expand your mind to know what wealth means to you. Ask yourself these questions;
What would it mean for me to be really wealthy?
What would I do with my time?
What would I do with my money?
What kind of legacy would I leave behind?
What kind of legacy would I want to create?

And then focus on that picture and see how that connects with your current life at the moment, it might seem really far stretched from where you currently are at the moment but It’s okay. You don’t have to know how you’re going to get there, all you need is to know your heart and follow your vision. My vision is beyond me and my family, I want to create this for women, especially young girls from this particular continent because I know what these women are going through, the kind of mental programming and emotional torture that they go through even at this day and age, I know this because I’ve experienced it myself even though I was born and brought up in the Western world.

When my mom passed away, I kept holding up to the idea of chastity and being a good Muslim girl and how this was important and choosing to cut ties with a partner who wasn’t for me. They gave me hell and said i had brought shame to the family because I decided I will no longer marry this individual, and because I already brought shame to the family, I was pushed into a proper arranged marriage, I never got to know him nor see the red flags until after I was married and It was far too late. He was a highly abusive person and I remember when my second husband was insulting me, laughing in my face saying “Even after everything I have done Gull, no one is going to blame me. They’re going to blame you and humiliate your kids and tell them their mother has been divorced twice.”

I remember that it really hit my heart because there’s some element of truth in that. In our culture, divorce is very embarrassing and humiliating especially for South Asian women and it doesn’t matter if it was her fault or not, the woman is always the one blamed. In my case, the first one was highly abusive and the second one was not just abusive, he cheated on me openly, yet the society will never blame him because he’s a man. As a well travelled, educated woman who grew up in the Western world, I dealt with this humiliation and it really opened my eyes to the plight of young women in South Asia communities. I had the privilege of living in London, in a Western world but what about the women who are living in South Asia?

Those young girls grow up in abusive environments and they have no one to turn to, and as soon as they voice that they don’t want to be abused or treated this way, the society tags them as girls with bad characters and blames them. This was when my purpose was born, the desire to create something bigger than myself and in order for me to do this, I need to create wealth for myself, to create those choices for myself, to be able to do the things I need to do for myself and others. I want to inspire and empower these girls and women to get out and make something of herself. To create this amazing life of her own, to be financially independent and I can make a difference in my life and those around me with my story.

This is going to be my legacy, and I need wealth in order for me to be able to liberate or inspire the younger generation of women. That is why I think becoming a money mindset expert was probably the best thing I could possibly imagine because not only am I doing this for myself, I’m also doing it for people around me. I work with both men and women to teach them what the true intrinsic value and true wealth is.

In working majorly with young women, we can achieve a place where no man on the planet irrespective of them being their father, their uncle, the grandad or the brother or even the son could ever devalue them.

Conclusion

We all need wealth because it is a financial freedom. In pursuit of this wealth, think of a legacy that you will leave behind when you are no more, a journey that can be carried out without us. This is what true wealth is

Letting go of things that no longer serve you

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These things could be anything, it could be people, ideas, beliefs, habits, or even certain hobbies. Those things that no longer serve you no longer help you to better yourself or improve yourself to achieve your goals or manifest the kind of life you want or desire.

In order to take note of those things that no longer serve you, you need to constantly reassess your life to see where you are, where you want to go, how far you are and what’s causing the delay and holding you from getting there.

This is something that played a major deal in my life, I let go of a lot of things that no longer serve me. I am very focused on what goal it is that I want to achieve at any given time. Recently one of my life goals was my son’s 11 plus, he has just finished all his exams, we are equally done with all the interviews and we will see which schools he gets into. I made this a priority so everything else took a backseat including going out with friends or having family over. I’m able to make these commitments and focus on them because I’m so focused on my goals but at times you find that we lose sight of what’s important or how something makes us feel and we think we are being patient and we ignore how it makes us feel.

I have someone in my life at the moment who is a constant pain at times in my life and I’ve done call cutting and then forgiving. I’m triggered by anything that this individual does when it comes to me because I’ve been on the receiving end of it. However, when it comes to my children, I have some expectations of behavior towards them and what a father should be and he falls short of that. He only comes to see the kids once a week and by the way I found out today that he has been telling people that I only allow him to see kids once a week which is completely false. I have been dealing with this individual for the longest time possible and every time I think of no longer having any kind of interaction with him but I have to consider my kids, When he comes late, doesn’t turn up or lets them down, I always get caught up in the middle.

Back in October, I planned a trip for him to take the kids for a couple of days to the theme park, I arranged an Airbnb and two weeks before that he cancelled on them. He didn’t tell me directly but my brother, he told them that he was going to Pakistan so he wasn’t able to take the kids. I had to cancel my plans to take the kids to the theme park. This kind of behavior is very normal for me to just drop my life and pick up whenever he lets the kids down and it’s been happening more frequently, I always let it go.

I’m trying to constantly build that relationship between him and the children because I think the kids really need to have a healthy positive image of their father. Recently, the behavior is just really agitating me as the way he treats his children including not giving them pocket money on a weekly basis. The kids have to constantly ask him and he still doesn’t. When I had all these excuses about why I couldn’t let this person go and the guilts came up, my cousin said to me, “what’s your biggest fear?” and this is the reason why I want to share this story with you. When we don’t let go of things, it’s usually because we have some fear behind it. I found out while I was talking to her, my biggest fear about not letting this individual go or having more strict boundaries with him and having blurred boundaries because I would put up with so much and just say, it doesn’t matter because he’s the kids’ father and she said because you keep letting him cross boundaries and putting up with things you shouldn’t really put up with, intolerable things, you have allowed him to disrespect you multiple times. If he was supposed to come at 12, he comes at the top at 2:30 and still gets angry at me because Who the hell am I to tell him what time he should come. The kids being late for their lesson is not a big deal or the end of the world kind of attitude. This idea that he can disrespect me just because he could even as we are no longer married. How am I creating the boundaries and how have I let go of him? I’m not married on paper but I’m still emotionally married because I have put up with his rubbish.

And this hit me really hard and I felt like a hypocrite at that point because I am always telling people to let go of things that no longer serve them. When it comes to habits, money and friends, this one individual has been so horrible and difficult for me to deal with over a number of years. We have been separated and divorced for six years, I am still dealing with all sorts of rubbish because I felt guilty that if I didn’t put up with this, the kids would lose out on their father. Him being a father is no longer my responsibility because he has not been for the last six years. I have somehow felt the need to self-sacrifice my dignity and self-respect in order for the kids to have a father and this was when I realized that I was no longer willing to do so. This idea of being the perfect mother and being all self-sacrificing, I had to let go of that.

I didn’t have to let go of this individual, I had to let go of the idea of the kind of mother I had to be in order to be a good mother and in order to be a good person, When I chose to stand up for myself when I first let go of him back in 2016, the lines were blurred because I was trying to be a good mother and trying to make him a good father and I realized I can’t do that for him, he has to choose to be a good dad or not. It’s his autonomy, it’s his personal decision and we are not able to control anybody else’s willpower, we need to do what’s right for us at the same time, we have to listen and really pay attention to how other people behave towards us and they don’t have to choose with respect. I’m not saying everybody has to respect you, but if they choose not to treat you with respect, then you should choose not to have them as part of your life, it doesn’t matter what or who they are. This could be a parent, a family member, in my case, it is my children’s father.

You have to make decisions for yourself, decisions that serve you and this relationship no longer serves me, I was trying to put up with his behavior even though it really annoyed me and I really felt sad for my kids because he would see them only once a week for a few hours and then that’s it, I shouldn’t have to put up with this kind of behavior.

I was willing to put up with this because I felt if I ever rock the boat, kids will lose out on their dad and I was trying my best to make sure the kids have a father. Only recently while talking to my cousin that I realized that I had to let go of the need to be the perfect mother because that no longer serves me. Me being a good mother has served me up until now because it motivated me to work hard for me, for my business and for me to show my children what’s possible for them and what they can create in their life, but in this situation, I am human and I have certain boundaries that I need people to respect and I need to respect myself and while he is disrespecting me, I am not respecting myself because I’m allowing him to disrespect me and therefore I have to put on the boundaries and this is what I’ve done recently and I felt guilty about it the first couple days because I thought I was going to mess up my children heads, but I realized that that’s not the case. I can give them a stable home, I can bring them up the best way possible, I can give them all the love and nurturing that they need and then let them make the decisions for whoever else wants to be part of their life or does not. I can’t be responsible for someone else’s behavior, so I let go of the need to always be the good person, the better person, the person who sacrifices her own self-respect in order for the kids to have a good relationship with their other parent.

This also got me reassessing my beliefs and my habits, I took itinerary of everybody who’s in my life and if you are no longer serving me, I just pull away from there and at the same time I do that for beliefs and ideas and habits as well. In my 20s, I got into the habit of drinking a lot of Coke and when I stopped drinking Coke, like about 15 years. Now I drink every now and then, but it’s no longer the kind of addiction that I had when I was 20. Another habit would be whenever I become dependent on something, I don’t like to be addicted to anything because addictions don’t serve you. If something is a healthy habit, that’s great but if it’s not, it becomes an addiction that will not serve you.

You need to take a regular itinerary of your habits, thoughts, ideas and people around you and see who serves you, and who doesn’t. If it’s friends and other people, it’s easier to let go. If it’s a family that you have a day-to-day interaction with, it is a bit more difficult to let go of them but then that’s where you put strong boundaries. In my case he’s not my family but he’s family to my kids so I gave myself six months. Six months to see how he behaves with his kids and then I’ll reassess this idea of him and I having a plain zero contact at all and then we’ll take it from there but you have to find a balance between what’s right for you and what you think is right for everyone else and as a parent that’s more difficult.

How do we compromise or find a middle ground?

Most of the time, compromising for kids will always win. Only recently have I actually begun to go for what’s best for me and my kids and not just my kids, I have begun to factor myself as well. Sometimes it might not be the best thing for the kids or me but it will be somewhere in the middle and this is what we’re doing at the moment in my personal life. Being a mother is something I hold in high regard, I see it as a privilege, a responsibility to two life forms given to me by divine energy to shape their minds and their ideas and help them become two young people who can go out and change the world so I take this responsibility very seriously, their mental well-being as well as emotional well-being is of the highest importance to me.

Therefore I do everything possible I can for them so this idea that I will no longer be in any having any kind of contact with the father for the next six months is a difficult one for me because I know this will have a detrimental impact on their relationship with the dad, if he bothers to do anything with them but It is a decision that I had to make for myself. Now think about that decision you have put off, people, ideas and situations that are no longer serving you but you are putting up with it because you don’t want any contention, argument, controversy or because you feel obligated to just put up with those certain things.

A lot of times it’s with family members and also people who you have known for a long time. Make yourself a priority, your opinions matter, your views matter and you matter. In order for you to become wealthy, you have to be happy. If things are no longer serving you, they are going to cause you to feel awkward, upset and give you toxicity in your energy.

One of the things that was really shocking to me was when I called my cousin after an incident with my ex, as soon as I said hello, she asked, “okay, what happened this time?”

I asked how she knew something happened, She said every time I speak to her and he has upset me, I always have this certain tonality and I found that surprising and she went further to say that this is because this person’s really toxic to you and you keep putting up with it because you think you need to be in order to be a good mother.

We need to think about what things or situations you are putting up with because you feel obligated to, or for whatever reason, in my case it was for my kids. Is it because you are a people pleaser, If you are a people pleaser then own the fact that you are a people pleaser and you have to change that, you have to take more control over yourself.

Conclusion

Find out what’s happening in your life that’s not serving you because if something or someone isn’t serving you, it will cause you to be in a negative vibration and this in turn can attract negative things to you.

I wasn’t really paying attention to that until my cousin pointed it out. If this person becomes toxic and I’m in this toxic energy for a long period of time, what kind of abundance am I attracting to myself? Money is one kind of abundance but abundance also spans across your happiness, family health not just your bank account.

What things are you dealing with, what things do you have in your life that are no longer serving you and are holding you back from achieving your true happiness?

Being happy in most areas of your life is what truly matters.

Boundaries Essential For Self-Love and Self-care

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When loving yourself and also in order not to be manipulated or people wasting your time, you need to set some boundaries or lay down some rules clearly. Boundaries cause people to respect you and your time.

Ways Boundaries Works In My Life

1. Respecting my time

I come from South Asian background, I was born in Manchester and grew up in London, my parents are originally from Lahore, Pakistan and they were both born in India so we are Punjabis and South Asian, we are very merry people and we are used to having lots of guests, friends and families and the concept of asking before you turn up does not exist, everyone just turns up whenever they feel like it.

When I was younger, I began to train my family and friends that they need to send a message across before showing up at my house because I am busy and I have other commitments. You pre-arrange before you show up and I know it became more common in my family and people messaged me before they showed up rather than just showing up. Subconsciously, I did this because of my commitments to work and my kids, I don’t like people calling me randomly either, my phone is on flight mode or DND so nobody’s calls can go through when I am working.

If I get a call, I will answer if it’s from a number that I recognize or I send those voicemails asking them to leave me a message and for me to get back to them and I realized that I have been doing this to my family and friends as well. They have to arrange time to speak with me and I get them to respect my time now because I respect my time, I didn’t realize I had done it so well until it was brought to my attention.

My school pickup and drop off time is between three and six. There are a couple of people like my brother and some of my cousins who would call me at that time, if it’s them I would answer, if not, I would not answer and just say, I’m sorry I can’t speak right now and give them a call much later. I am very clear in my mind that if someone calls me without arranging to see if I am free, they are not respecting my time, Of course I’m happy to speak to people but in a time that we can arrange which is convenient for the both of us. If I’m working or doing something else, cooking, there are a number of things that I could be doing, you can’t just call and expect me to answer.

There is this family member from Pakistan, they just randomly called and I actually said to them that I was busy at the moment and I wasn’t busy at the time, I was doing a mundane task but I didn’t want them to think that they can just call me anytime and I will answer, I asked if it was urgent and they said no so I said “I’m sorry, I’m busy at the moment, I’ll call when it’s more convenient” and I arranged a time with them and I called back.

Don’t be rude, I am telling you to be very vigilant with your time management and allow people understand that your time is precious and they need to respect you and respect your time, you have to stand up and respect yourself, respect your time and this will enforce other people to follow suit and do the same, if you think that you can carry on being a doormat and become wealthy.

People ask why a nice person doesn’t last and good things don’t happen to good people. Good things do happen to good people, good people just have to be more vigilant and be more mindful so they don’t let people manipulate them. it is one of the reasons why you have to be really careful about who you allow in your space .You have to be very careful with your time.

I don’t care who you are or who calls if it’s a number that I don’t recognize, I will pick it up incase it is urgent and ask if it’s urgent and when they say yes or no, depending on who is on the line, if it’s not urgent, it doesn’t matter who it is, I’ll ask them to call back later around a particular time and if they do not call me back during that time, I will not answer. I am very clear about that, if you need to you contact me otherwise, you can through email and I don’t read lengthy emails either.

I do respect my time and I want you to respect your time. It’s one of the first boundaries that you have to lay down, very clearly.

2. Learn to say no

The second one is related to people respecting you but it’s a bit more deeper. If you can enforce your first boundary and get people to start respecting your time, the second one becomes a non-issue. People don’t tend to do the second one if they’re already respecting you and that is manipulating you for money and other things emotionally, blackmailing you to do things that you don’t necessarily want to do.

So the second boundary is about learning to say no. I remember when I first learned how to say no, it was really hard. I come from a family, like my mother who was overly generous, she had 14 siblings which she helped out financially and otherwise, every single one of them, a lot of the time. She would give things to them by taking them away from my kids, she takes the money and gives it to somebody else who needs it more. That was her idea of generosity, when I look back in time, I do believe in giving and generosity, but this is why one of the bank accounts we talk about the three steps to cash flow street is charity and charity has 10% in there for a reason. People who are overly generous, people who are empaths, and who it’s in their nature to be generous give more than they should and I think you should calculate a 10% until you do have sufficient amount of money in your bank account, until then 10% is efficient.

I remember one time, this uncle of mine who’s passed away now, he was a younger brother of hers and he demanded, he didn’t ask ,that she give him 5,000 pounds. This was about 30 years ago, I was about to enter into my teenage years. And I remember this clearly because he asked her for this huge amount of money which was 5,000 pounds, which was a lot of money for a woman who was working God knows how many hours at this factory and making only a hundred pounds a week. If she had the money, she would definitely send it but she didn’t have the money so she said no and he got so upset with her, how dare she say no to him when she has helped everybody else out, how she has never helped him out, he didn’t speak to her for years thereafter and I found out that even though he was not asking, he was demanding, she helped because she was so used to helping people.

He knew that she helped everyone else so how can she not help him. It doesn’t matter how she got the money, She needs to get the money and send it to him. So that kind of behavior and my mother still didn’t learn by the way, God bless her soul, she was just a very generous person. You need to set boundaries and especially if you are on this path of enlightenment and you want to be prosperous at the same time, you need to lay down boundaries, you’re not a bank. If people want money, they shouldn’t come to you, they should go to their bank and you are not a bank and you should not be bailing people out, don’t enable people, empower people, help them to help themselves. There’s an old saying that if you give a man fish, he eats for a day, you teach how to fish, he feeds for the rest of his life.

You need to help people that want to help themselves, you don’t want to be helping people who don’t want to learn how to fish. They just want you to give them the fish every single day and the day you stop giving them the fish, they get angry. There are times when you find yourself stuck between a rock and a hard place, and you can’t say no because of such a situation.

A situation where if I didn’t help, this person would be out on the streets. I am trying to lay down boundaries so that this situation can be controlled and can be taken care of as quickly as possible but at the same time, I don’t want to feel like I have been taken advantage of, it gives a really wrong energy.

My brother is just similar to my mom, God bless his soul. He is easily taken advantage of and he just feels compelled to be in this situation as things are and there was nothing else he could do. He couldn’t help this individual because it was a girl so I stepped in and I am able to help but people would take advantage of it because they think they can. I am seen as someone who’s done well and they clearly asked me if I can pay the legal fees as well and I said “No I am sorry, this is your responsibility. I am afraid I can’t do that, you have to pay the money” My brother would have nodded and found ways to justify. I’m not gonna lie, I do have the money but I have refused to pay it.

I was doing enough as it is and it was very clear and the way it was requested was similar to the tone that my uncle used on my mother a while ago where it was demanded, I wasn’t asked if I could loan it to them or if I could help them. You need to give yourself permission to say no, plain and simple, when you learn to say no, that becomes a very empowering skill that you have.

You can say no initially and have a change of heart afterwards, If you do have a change of heart, you don’t feel pressured into saying yes at that very moment, you are happy to help, they would be more elated to hear this news. If you say yes because you’re obligated to say yes but later on when you go away, you think about it and you can’t help them and you pick the phone, call up and tell them that you found out you can’t help them, they will feel bad and upset towards you.

Conclusion

I hope we now understand how boundaries enable our self care and self love and how they go hand in hand in your journey to becoming wealthy. If you don’t love yourself enough to value your time, then you are never going to become wealthy.

If you can’t value your time, you will not value your money. It’s as simple as that. Love and respect yourself and your time and enforce other people to do the same.

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