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Show Up Even When You Do Not Want To

Being an authentic person

There are many times we are faced with situations that we just do not feel like showing up for, whether it is going to work, attending to a business, or even having awkward conversations; using myself as an example there have been times when I genuinely did not want to participate in any of my businesses or to even to say my five daily prayers as a Muslim. Something I told my daughter when we were discussing showing up when you do not feel a hundred percent was that even though no one will be there to force you, it is your responsibility to attend to your duties because it is the ethical thing to do.


When you make a commitment you have to value other people’s time and follow through on that commitment to remain the kind of person that people can continue to rely on, this is one of the fundamental elements of being wealthy. Wealthy people make sure they always show up no matter the circumstances, they follow through on commitments and when they cannot, they apologize and overcompensate for missing said commitment. This is how to genuinely be an authentic person.

Value your time as well as the time of others

On this journey to wealth, there are various ways of making money which we have discussed previously but building one’s reputation as well as the reputation of one’s business is very important in your manifestation journey. You should be known as someone dependable and not someone who continuously falls short of their obligations. Even though my podcast is not monetized, I continue to put out new episodes three times a week because my primary goal for creating it was to get my message out to as many people as I can and connect with as many people as we can which we are accomplishing successfully. I continue to show up every day and two and a half years later, I make sure I make myself do it because I know how important it is and I know the impact that it is making on people.

Showing up constantly eventually becomes part of your character. Something I learned long ago from my mother first as well as a few of my school teachers and people I view as my personal mentors like Bob Proctor and Jim Rowan was that how you do one thing is how you should do everything else; the commitment you make to one thing should be the commitment you make to everything else and if you are not able to follow through on something then the likeliness of committing to something else is very low. If you want to do well in life, you must truly commit to the goals you are manifesting for your life.
To be an individual who follows through on their commitments, you have to be able to do things even though you do not feel like it. Of course, there are unforeseen circumstances that cannot be avoided, for example, I had to move a workshop by a week because my son had appendicitis and I had to spend most of my week with him and even though I made sure I still did the workshop and made sure extra support was available, I made sure I explained why the workshop had to be postponed.

Show up every single day

Commitment is a very important part of achieving abundance and this is something many of us have taken for granted. The most successful entrepreneurs are the ones committed to their goals and to making daily actions because they are more focused on achieving the bigger picture and not on what is happening in their present life. Sometimes a daily action feels so minuscule that you do not see how it is contributing towards your achieving your goal but as long as you are making these daily actions with the right intentions, you will eventually achieve your desires. It may not be obvious now but in the future, you will realize that the actions you remained committed to daily eventually paid off in the form of your manifestations becoming your reality.

Make it an obligation to show up every day. Following the eighty-twenty rule, there will be days when you are ill or having a family emergency which is the ten to twenty percent so you must make sure that the eighty percent that is left is dedicated to showing up and staying fully committed to whatever you are doing no matter the circumstances in your personal life. Show your character and you will succeed. Personally, if someone does not carry out the commitment they have made to me without giving any reason prior, my value for them immediately diminishes and it is unlikely that I will ever be able to work with said individual again.

Strive to always be seen as a reliable person. Do not be the kind of person who wastes people’s time because you do not want others to make commitments to you and end up wasting your time either. No matter how you are feeling, come through on your commitment and hold yourself to higher standards because there will always be people waiting for you to fall short so that they can see you as unreliable. Do things because it is the right thing to do even when you do not want to do them, hold yourself to a standard, and fulfill your commitment because you are a person of integrity.

Conclusion

Be an authentic person. Success comes with various twists and turns in life but as long as you continue to follow through on your commitments, commit to your goals and take daily action, have higher standards for yourself then you will achieve any form of desire you have for yourself eventually. What you do in your professional life will reflect in your personal life and vice versa you must make commitments and follow through on them in all areas of your life.

Be committed to yourself even as you accomplish your daily commitments. No matter the circumstances life throws at you, you will overcome them as long as you stay true to yourself and do the necessary work even when you do not want to. There are always going to be things that turn up that you do not want to do or you do not feel like doing but you cannot give in to these urges, you must remain focused and committed in order to reach your manifested goals.

The true meaning of Wealth

What does wealth really mean to you?
Why is wealth important?

“True wealth is not measured in money or status or power, It is measured in the legacy we leave behind for those we love and those we inspire”

This quote from Cesar Chavez really touched my heart and I thought about what I’m trying to create in my life or inspire people to. I am all about creating wealth for yourselves, abundance in all areas of your life, health, relationships, metaphysical and physical wealth. I want to have the car, the house, the life that you could possibly imagine, access to make great choices that you could possibly have, everything that money can buy for you and more.

 

Why is creating wealth important?

I tend to attract audiences or people who are similar to myself, it’s not just about creating wealth. You want to create generational wealth, a legacy that you can leave behind once you pass on to the next dimension. It’s much more grander than your own physical need, it’s really not just about the car or house or the success that comes to you, It’s about creating that legacy and leaving that activity behind, inspiring others through your legacy and your work. This is what true wealth means to me, unfortunately we get so tied to the physical aspects like the car, house, fame that we forget what we are really working for. How much money do you actually need to live the life of your dreams and if you sit and work out how much money you need to live comfortably and happily, It will be nowhere near the number that you’re striving to get to.

A lot of my needs are actually quite modest, food, clothing, a nice car and a decent house to live in, access to good education and healthcare. Even though I don’t have any lavish lifestyles, don’t gamble or drink, my needs are going to be modest compared to most ambitious People, yet I am working towards a number which might be a thousand times more than that amount that I actually need, this is because I want to leave a legacy behind. I want to create something that’s bigger than myself, I want to be remembered for something, a legacy through my work, it’s about helping others and inspiring others to live their best and fullest life.

There are times when I ask myself why I work so hard, why I want to achieve xyz. It’s not because I want the name and the fame, I’m not an egotistical person. It is very nice to get praises but it’s not what drives me. I connect with money in its spiritual form so I’m not attached to money in its physical form. What is it that gets me going? What makes me work 10 times harder than anybody else? What keeps me going when I want to give up? In those trying times when I’m exhausted, I have my goal in sight, I’ve cried and persevered through because I remember my vision, what wealth means to me. In the past, I have said that my children are the purpose but honestly my kids don’t need that kind of money either.

The meaning of wealth can be different for everyone just as the legacy one leaves behind is different for everyone. I have a particular legacy in mind that I want to leave behind for my two children, I have other things that I want to create not necessarily for myself but also for other people, some charitable organizations that I want to support, projects for young women especially in the South Asian continent. My family is from Pakistan, my parents were born in India so I have this strong affiliation with India, Pakistan and Bangladesh as well, I know of the plight of young females from South Asia and this is part of the reason why education is so important to me because it opens your mind and gives you the ability to deal with life in ways differently. Wealth to me means having the freedom of choice and ability to help who I want to help, to be able to do the things I want to do in my short life while inspiring people around to live their fullest life too.

My children are my one motivating factor, they are both in university now, I’ve pretty much completed the task of raising them but that’s not all I want to do but I find myself creating extra opportunities because I want to leave a legacy behind, my wealth is not going to be measured with how much money I have in the bank account or how many cars or houses I have. My wealth is going to be measured in who I’ve helped, what I have helped them achieve both through my works, my money and my inspiring story. My life has been a roller coaster journey from the age of five, my mother finding out about my father remarrying, being abused, my brother going to Juvie, my mother passing away and living with an abusive husband in my various marriages, yet I have carried on moving forward. I think every part of my life can inspire someone else, this is why I share everything about my life so openly, I have made mistakes, I have learnt and grown from it. There is a reason why my life turned out the way it did and maybe my story can help people and inspire them.

Financial success is simply a stepping stone to creating the kind of legacy that I want. In order for you to have the freedom to choose to do what you want to do, you have to have the financial freedom behind you, When you don’t have to worry about the rent, the mortgage, the car payments, the food payments, and the utility payments, then you have freedom to choose what else you want to create with your time and the people you want to have in your life.

If you are currently struggling with connecting with financial wealth because this is not why money is important to you, I want you to think in grander terms and expand your mind to know what wealth means to you. Ask yourself these questions;
What would it mean for me to be really wealthy?
What would I do with my time?
What would I do with my money?
What kind of legacy would I leave behind?
What kind of legacy would I want to create?

And then focus on that picture and see how that connects with your current life at the moment, it might seem really far stretched from where you currently are at the moment but It’s okay. You don’t have to know how you’re going to get there, all you need is to know your heart and follow your vision. My vision is beyond me and my family, I want to create this for women, especially young girls from this particular continent because I know what these women are going through, the kind of mental programming and emotional torture that they go through even at this day and age, I know this because I’ve experienced it myself even though I was born and brought up in the Western world.

When my mom passed away, I kept holding up to the idea of chastity and being a good Muslim girl and how this was important and choosing to cut ties with a partner who wasn’t for me. They gave me hell and said i had brought shame to the family because I decided I will no longer marry this individual, and because I already brought shame to the family, I was pushed into a proper arranged marriage, I never got to know him nor see the red flags until after I was married and It was far too late. He was a highly abusive person and I remember when my second husband was insulting me, laughing in my face saying “Even after everything I have done Gull, no one is going to blame me. They’re going to blame you and humiliate your kids and tell them their mother has been divorced twice.”

I remember that it really hit my heart because there’s some element of truth in that. In our culture, divorce is very embarrassing and humiliating especially for South Asian women and it doesn’t matter if it was her fault or not, the woman is always the one blamed. In my case, the first one was highly abusive and the second one was not just abusive, he cheated on me openly, yet the society will never blame him because he’s a man. As a well travelled, educated woman who grew up in the Western world, I dealt with this humiliation and it really opened my eyes to the plight of young women in South Asia communities. I had the privilege of living in London, in a Western world but what about the women who are living in South Asia?

Those young girls grow up in abusive environments and they have no one to turn to, and as soon as they voice that they don’t want to be abused or treated this way, the society tags them as girls with bad characters and blames them. This was when my purpose was born, the desire to create something bigger than myself and in order for me to do this, I need to create wealth for myself, to create those choices for myself, to be able to do the things I need to do for myself and others. I want to inspire and empower these girls and women to get out and make something of herself. To create this amazing life of her own, to be financially independent and I can make a difference in my life and those around me with my story.

This is going to be my legacy, and I need wealth in order for me to be able to liberate or inspire the younger generation of women. That is why I think becoming a money mindset expert was probably the best thing I could possibly imagine because not only am I doing this for myself, I’m also doing it for people around me. I work with both men and women to teach them what the true intrinsic value and true wealth is.

In working majorly with young women, we can achieve a place where no man on the planet irrespective of them being their father, their uncle, the grandad or the brother or even the son could ever devalue them.

Conclusion

We all need wealth because it is a financial freedom. In pursuit of this wealth, think of a legacy that you will leave behind when you are no more, a journey that can be carried out without us. This is what true wealth is

Keeping your eye on the ball

Why is keeping your eye on the ball important when creating and building your wealth?

Recently I was going through my journal and life goals and I realized that everytime I wasn’t focused on a particular goal, it didn’t happen. Even when I was focusing on my goal and doing other things at the same time, I achieved the goal but not to the level that I wanted and certainly not with the best results, Logically it makes sense because if you are dispersing your energy between multiple tasks, you’re not obviously going to get the kind of result that you want but on the other hand if you had constantly focused on a particular goal, you are going to achieve better results compared to when your energy is dispersed across multiple tasks or multiple goals at same time.

Sometimes, we are in these situations where we can’t help but do that. During the COVID lockdown, we got accustomed to living at home, having kids at home with online schooling and so forth. It didn’t really interfere too much in my oldest child’s schoolworks, she is really brilliant and very fortunate to attend a good school, they provided a good online programmer but my younger one needed extra support especially considering when this COVID hit, he was only eight. Paying attention to the online schooling was a bit challenging for him so I employed a tutor for him but he hasn’t performed as well over the last two years because he is not the kind of child who does well with online tutorials. He’s more of a face-to-face interaction kind of child.

I was looking at certain goals that I had for my personal life and I realized when COVID happened, my business did really well on some parts but not to the level I would have wanted to achieve. I haven’t achieved what I aimed at and even my other businesses, there has been steady growth but it’s been a lot slower than what I had originally set my sights for and the only conclusion was because my energy was dispersed. In 2020, I was mostly concerned with making sure my kids were fine, taken care of and their mental well-being was okay because we were completely isolated and then in 2021 it was all about making sure that they have not fallen far behind and trying to catch up with academics, my son passed which was great, even though it wasn’t to the level that I would have liked, but he still did very well, lt meant that all my focus was on him, his education and his mental well-being. The focus on my business was not as strong or Clear as it should have been and this clearly translated in the results that I have. I’m quite lucky when I work with my clients, I’m very focused so the kind of results that my clients got in this year was phenomenal. We probably got the best results ever but the number of people I was able to serve diminished a lot.

I wasn’t able to take on as many clients as I would have done previously because my energy was not there, my mindset wasn’t there and yes we got a lot of other really amazing milestones with other things such as my book came out and I became an international bestseller so we have done amazingly well. When I looked at the number of people we were able to serve, it was nowhere near what I would have liked. Now it’s not that we did not have enough clients, I wasn’t scaling my business and moving to the level that I envisaged for myself in my goal book but I took a step back and realized while assessing the year, I wasn’t disappointed with it by any shot. My son was phenomenal, My book has done really well and my clients equally did phenomenally well. We had amazing testimonials coming up from left, right, center and that’s what gives me my high, there’s no way I would call 2021 a disappointment. Even as my coaching business and my property business lacked my entire focus, I think what suffered the most was my property business, It really declined and we had one issue after another issue with our property portfolio.

My focus wasn’t there, I didn’t have the time because all my efforts were going into either my son or my coaching business, there was no energy going into my property business or the other things. I had actually stopped all trading because I found trading to be very very draining last year. I stopped trading for a while and I haven’t really gone back because I just didn’t have the energy or the time available to be able to go through the trades, pick winning trades and do that as I was doing regularly before.

So in order for you to become wealthy, you have to be focused on money making activities. This is one of the most important things, my book has been great, it gets me recognition and it’s also great for brand awareness but it’s not really a money making activity. When it comes to my son, that’s obviously not a money making activity but it is priceless so is the time that I spent with him in order for him to become greater and I’m so proud that he has and we’ll find out the final results as soon, but we already have an offer from a school that I really want him to go to.

So I really want to reiterate how important it is to refocus on your goals, take inventory of your lives, especially of your energies, where it’s spent, what activities you’re engaging your minds in. You could be doing meditation, reading or listening to audiobooks. Personal development never stops with me, if I’m in a car, I’m listening to an audiobook. If I’m not listening to an audiobook then I’m doing visualization or talking to someone. Have uplifting conversations, always remind yourself about divine energy, I am praying and doing all these things constantly but sometimes I lose focus. When it comes to my wealth, it’s definitely grown but it hasn’t grown to the level of my expectation. If I don’t have the focus on wealth creating activities, why should I expect my wealth to grow?

Maybe I haven’t spent time thinking or focusing on those money-making activities. Maybe I haven’t really thought about what the next big idea is for me. I want to be creating a hundred thousand a month in my business, how can I build this business up to that level or do I go into another business activity and create another business? What helps me grow to that level and allow yourself to be able to divert and pivot, take and bring it closer to your wealth, you know the kind of wealth that you want. Should everyone be focusing on this at the moment?
I would say yes and until you have arrived at that level, at that number, which makes you feel happy and comfortable. That number is going to be different for everyone. Someone’s going to be happy making 5,000, passive income very easily. Somebody else could be happy with the 10,000.
Somebody else will be happy with 50,000. Somebody else will be happy with a hundred thousand. Somebody else would be happy with a million. That number is different for every single person, that number is different and it should be unique for every single person. You need to look upon your life and think about what you’re focusing on right now. If I want a certain amount of income or wealth, what should I be focusing on?

One of the things that I realized is that it’s not the amount of money that is important to me but the way I make it, Until now my passive income has been very little, I don’t call my income passive because there’s so much work involved with creating my money, That ridiculous amount of time is not passive by any means. I realized what I really want is to have a certain amount of money coming to me as passive income so when another obstacle or situation arises, such as next year, my daughter will be doing her GCSEs and I’ll be heavily involved in supporting my daughter. I need to have a certain amount of money coming in through passive means so that I don’t have to be stressed or worried about money, so I needed to create this.

It is being focused and prepared in terms of what life has in store for you and what’s important to you, I don’t have to support my daughter but I’m going to choose to do it. I didn’t have to support my son, but I chose to do it, their father doesn’t spend the time. He doesn’t care what exam he has, that’s his choice. For me it was taking him to the exams, preparing him before exams, giving him the mindset tools, allowing him to take the energy tools and watching him be the best version of himself at interviews and exams, that was my choice, I want to do that but it also meant that those times I was not
focusing on my work or wealth building activities and this is what I have had to accept. In your life, you can have situations where you’re going to be focused on other things, that’s absolutely fair but the problem is when that temporary diversion becomes a lifelong activity so instead of being focused on money making activities, you’re constantly focusing on some other aspect of your life.
You find yourself going from focusing on your partner to your children, your health, your mother’s health, your uncle’s health and so forth. Life will keep throwing these different circumstances at you if you are not careful.

I knew I was going to have a lot to deal with, my son’s studies, Myra’s GCSEs and I had this to prepare for their education which is super important to me therefore I took the time out. Instead of thinking okay what do I do?, I already am going to allocate time for this. I’m already going to work a timetable where I can allocate energy,time and mental space to help them and support them in their education. At the same time I have a certain amount of time which I can focus on my wealth building activities.
And at the same time, creating those vehicles, the machinery require the systems in place,having those systems in place will give me the kind of passive income that I need to not stress about the day-to-day income, the day-to-day expenses, including the business and for my employees and my consultants and everything that’s related to my coaching business as well as my property business.

I am looking to buy other businesses as well. So we are going into different areas together. I am expanding and I am going to have a large number of staff working for me which means I’m responsible for other people’s livelihood,money and their income as well, which is an additional responsibility which I’m going to take on. And I’m happy to do it because it’s going to help me to build my wealth and these are part of my wealth building strategies and wealth building activities but it does mean that I have to factor that in.

Take ownership of what’s happening in your life

Whatever you are focusing on accept it and then reassess whether you’re not focused on wealth, if you are not focused on wealth, you will not create wealth, if you’re not focused on creating a business which gives you the financial freedom, you will not have that financial freedom.

There is no such thing as a random accident. It doesn’t happen that way. It’s your choice,how much time everybody puts into work. I am asking you to be another Elon musk and put in 120hrs a week,it’s your choice how much time and effort you put in your work,I am of the opinion that you should have a time that you enjoy your work and have adequate time with your family. That’s super important. Even for me, every single day it is important that I get to spend some time with my kids because that is more important than anything else for me.
But at the same time, I’m focused. Once my kids are asleep, I’m focused on creating or having conversations with my clients. My kids are so important to me. I’m always focused on them but I am also focusing back on activities, those activities which are going to build my wealth which up till now I had put on the back burner, not intentionally because I had always had excuses of Purvis happening or I should do this for Myra.

Don’t waste your time on mundane activities that can be delegated to other people or activities which doesn’t require some of your time like scrolling through social media or catching up with people? I’m not saying not to catch up with people to have or conversations,
I’m not telling you not to have friends but when you are focused on your dreams and you are really focused on becoming wealthy, you will have to put your friends on pause for a little while, not every single day.
So it’s not that I don’t talk to friends but I have a limit on the time that I do speak to them because when I do have time, I speak to my children and I speak to my clients. I do speak to my friends maybe once a week and I have individuals that I have conversations with once or twice a week.Most of the time is spent on my children or alone time with my meditations or on my business.

If I spent all my time gossiping and talking to my friends, I wouldn’t get anything done. So how much of your time are you spending just socializing and on Netflix or listening to news or other things and how much time are you spending focusing on your goals? These are the questions you need to ask yourself.

Conclusion

What are you doing with your time? How focused are you on your goal? Because if you’re not focused on your goal, if you don’t have a burning desire for this goal, you are never gonna achieve it. It will be a dream, it doesn’t matter how many mind maps you make or how many vision boards you make, it doesn’t matter how many affirmations you say, if you’re not focused on your goal, you’re not getting it. Be truthful to yourself about what you are doing at the moment, if it is getting you closer to your goals or you are just ticking along. Are you busy being busy or are you actually productive?

Check this internally and level up by focusing more on your goals.

Casting your burden over to divine energy in your pursuit of wealth, abundance and prosperity

This almost feels like I’m sharing a journal of personal life as I progress on my work towards creating wealth and abundance for myself. When we are on this path of prosperity and abundance, this is actually a journey of growth and self realization, you are going to have moments of doubt, despair, desperation and you’re going to come across obstacles which may seem insurmountable.

It doesn’t matter how clear your vision is and how strong your why is, you will definitely experience moments of doubt, despair and frustration but if your will is strong enough, you will come out of this situation rapidly and you’ll be on track again. The stronger your why, the quicker you’ll come out of this state. My whole life revolves around my two children, every thought, idea and my desire for prosperity stems from my love for them and my desire to give them the best life possible. My children’s access to quality education is of the highest priority for me at the moment and equally giving them a good life and raising them in a good environment because my brother and I grew up in a council state and he got into bad company. My ‘why’ is so strong, to ensure my children do not lack anything and it makes it rare for me to fall into these low moments, and when I do, It pulls me out very quickly.

I have these flickering thoughts and moments of doubt, frustration and despair as every other human, I’m not immune to these moments but because of my strength and sheer will, I come out of it.

How can you come out of these moments of despair, desperation, frustration and anger?

When I find myself in frustrating situations that feel too big for me to handle, I cast the burden of that situation over to divine energy. This is when I admit to divine energy that this is too much for me, that I cannot handle it, this is your problem. I had this situation that kept on occurring in my coaching business for months now and it occurred to me that I was seeking outside help, involving an external agency to help me with this particular issue but so far after wasting thousands of pounds and time, the conclusion I’ve come to is that nobody else can help me, this is something that I need to work out on my own.

I’m naturally gifted towards it and this realization came after I had prayed to God to give me a solution and a sign. I really believe that when you ask God for help in all sincerity, he would answer and show you signs. When I prayed for a solution, I was told to look at myself and look within but every time an agency that I employed to help failed, I would look for the next agency or expert to fix it, I kept on looking outside of myself. I did not look within because It was not the area that I wanted to practice or specialize in so I kept on outsourcing it to someone else. I do believe in outsourcing to other people for various things but sometimes as was in this case, you have to do it in-house. I finally gave into that, I had to learn it and I have to become an expert of this skill that has been gifted to me by the universe.

Another instance is this business that I want to go into but I don’t know how to get into that business so I’ve put that idea on a shelf and I have handed over the part of creating a way for me to break through into this business to divine energy because that’s the source of the guidance and intuition that I need to go into this particular area. I have given divine energy the responsibility of bringing a person or a course, or ideas on how to get into that business. I know the information and help is out there but I don’t know where to look or how to find it so I am relying completely on divine energy to not just create a way for me to start but also show me how to get the funding and I’m very confident that by the end of this year, I would have opened up that business and It’s up to divine energy to guide me.

I have accepted the vision about going into this business by the end of year and I’m certain things will unfold in the most magical way possible because I’m letting divine energy guide my steps to take actions when the time is right and send me solutions where needed, because of my faith in God, I’m certain it’s going to happen. As I’ve cast the burden to the divine energy, I’m going to go on with life following his directives to the best of my ability.

Always rely on Divine energy for guidance in any situation in your life. My son’s results for his entrance examination into elite private school came through and my son Aryan fortunately got into these amazing schools. Earlier, the issues were getting into these schools but now it’s which one of them I should select for him. All of these schools are amazing but each one has its pros and cons and I have asked divine energy for guidance to make the right decision for my son. I really believe that having a strong educational background opens up the mind. I have three schools to choose from, School A wasn’t a school I was considering because I didn’t even think we could get in, I wasn’t really keen on School B but it was my second favourite and School C is my daughter’s school. I am very proud of my son and I prayed to thank God for helping him accomplish this feat, I also asked for guidance and we are going to visit all the schools before I make my decision.

I thought that I’ll be leaning towards the school where my daughter goes because it makes logical sense for both kids to be there together and we are already familiar with the teachers and school and they know me as well. I was shocked the next day that all I could think about was school A, the benefits and most importantly how it’s the most academically superior of the three. My intuition strongly told me to go with school A which was not even on my radar. The fees of these three schools are the same so it wasn’t used as consideration points. So why was my spirit insisting on School A, because divine energy knows better.

Conclusion

Divine energy knows more, sees deeper and knows what’s going on far greater than you can. In your limited capacity, when you try to make these life-changing decisions for your business, your personal life and your kids, it’s best not to rely on your common sense or my conscious mind only.

When I have an important decision to make, a change that will have an impact on me or my business or my family for a long term, I always ask divine energy for advice and this is what I’ve become accustomed to, I’m always listening to my intuition and seeking out his guidance.

I hope we can utilise divine energy’s power to unburden ourselves and get on with our lives while walking on his directives and his timing, this would help you to quantum leap your results. There might be times when you’ll be asked to take actions that go against logic but remember to trust your instincts and follow his guidance to build your wealth.

Prosperity and Poverty Consciousness

Which one do you think you have?

I’m going to ask you a few questions today that may trigger you into asking questions and realizing what kind of consciousness you really have whether it’s poverty or prosperity consciousness and I want you to understand the two aspects to this, there’s poverty or prosperity consciousness.

And the reason why we can determine this is based on your financial standing. I’m gonna explain both of those terms but I want you to understand that every single person on the planet fits into the spectrum.

What is Prosperity Consciousness?

Inside this spectrum is someone who’s extremely prosperous. They are aware that abundance is all around them and they manifest money very easily, whatever they touch turns to gold, they have what we call the Midas Touch.

Everything they do excels really well, they have successful businesses and money comes to them and they’re able to invest. This is what I would classify as a prosperity consciousness, they’re aware of all the resources available to them. They’re able to get people’s time and people’s money to create their own money. They also enjoy abundance in their health and their relationship. This is one extreme example of the spectrum of other camps.

What is Poverty Consciousness?

On the other end, you have people who have poverty conscious and they live in scarcity all their entire life and there’s never enough time or money. They usually have big victim mentality.

In between these two extremes, we have everybody else somewhere along the spectrum and where you fit on that spectrum is determined by your financial thermostat.

What is your financial thermostat?

This is your comfort zone with money, It is not something of your own choice unless you’ve actively worked on it. Your financial thermostat has been given to you, it has been programmed into you by your primary caregivers. And this could be your mum and dad, your foster parents, even your doctors, uncles and aunties. Whoever it was with the most influence on you between the ages of zero to seven and to some extent between 7 to 14 and maybe even to 21.

Generally most of your programming is done by the age of seven so this financial thermostat has been programmed into you by your primary caregivers without your knowledge even. In your teens and early 20s, you can rebel, pull away and be able to make a lot of money and that’s good but you find that towards the beginning of your 30s, somewhere along those lines between early 30s and 40s, there’s what I call a snapback. It happens. When you experience a snapback, you are pulled back into your earliest money paradigm and you begin to live the story (thermostat) that was programmed into you.

So basically in your 20s and even to some extent your 30s, you pull away from your true part of the financial paradigm. You might think, “Oh! I escaped though. I’ve made money and done all this“. A lot of people don’t understand that If you don’t clear your energy around your earliest money paradigm, you will suffer a snapback and get shot down to where your financial thermostat is set for you by your primary caregivers and it could be in the form of going bankrupt, physical burnout, Cancer, a failed marriage and losing everything. This snapback can manifest itself in a number of different ways, there are different situations.

How do you realize what your financial thermostat is?

Your financial thermostat is the financial thermostat of the people that looked after you in your primary age.Your primary caregivers at the age of 7, What kind of money did they make? What kind of life did they live? What kind of ideas did they have? This is what sets your lower and your upper financial thermostat. So you find that with most people (there are exemptions to this of course) but generally 90% of the time, majority of the people who I’ve come across tend to live in that upper and lower financial thermostat which is the upper zone and lower zone based on the financial thermostat of their parents.

Financial thermostat is your comfort zone around money, The Lower threshold of it is the absolute low amount of money that you can survive before your sense is coming to play and you attract money and the upper threshold of it is the amount of money you allow yourself to have in your energy field through investments through a business through whatever have you before your subconscious mind kicks into action and starts attracting ways to get rid of the money.

We tend to live between the upper limit and the lower limit but once this snapback happens, they tend to switch between the two unless they clear this so they don’t continue to do this ping-pong journey for the rest of their life. During my research, I remember doing a lot of research and speaking to lots of people in their retirement age and finding out why most people retire and retire poor.

This one story really stuck out to me, about this gentleman who had multiple businesses, was running a multi-million at one point and in his retirement when he was the age of 70, he was fully financial dependent on his son, himself and his wife and he couldn’t work it out how he ended up being fully financial dependent on his son rather than himself. And the only thing that came to mind was that he ping-ponged his way between the lower and the upper throughout his life and he never actually cleared his energy therefore at the age when he should be enjoying his money, he had nothing to enjoy.

I would encourage you to look at your financial thermostat and think “what kind of money makes me uncomfortable?” I don’t want you to give me straight answers because you grew up rich or you read my book or you listened to this podcast or you listen to Tony Robbins and you think….. you can make a million a month and can be happy with it.

 

Whether you can make a million a month, I don’t doubt that, I think you can. I think every single person can make a million a month, it’s not a big deal but whether you can make a million a month and keep it long-term, that’s what I doubt, the amount of money you make is not going to be impacted by your financial thermostat. Sometimes we stretch our upper/lower limits by doing all these positive works but we only stretch it, we don’t actually stabilize them.

So we can stretch and stretch and at one point, we take a step back and come right back down to the bottom, that’s when bankruptcy happens. I want you to really think about what kind of money did your parents (primary caregivers) have when you were growing up. And if you are about 30-40, please pay attention to what kind of lifestyle you are living right now and how similar or different it is from the lifestyle of your parents, you may have a lot more money coming in but in terms of lifestyle and standard of living, how similar or different is it from your parents and 9 times out of 10, I find people off of the age of 30 onwards generally have a very similar standard of living to that of the primary caregivers.

Surprisingly it occurs a lot for people from professional backgrounds, I remember this conversation I was having with this doctor, she was a GP and her husband was an IT consultant. Between the two of them, they were making $150,000 pounds annually. I remember she was very frustrated and upset because they were losing money and she couldn’t work out why they were not able to keep and grow money.

They were making all this money but their outgoings were more than their incomes and she didn’t understand this because they weren’t spendthrift. She thought they were frugal but what you find is that as your income grows so does your expenses (if your financial thermostat has not been worked on). You manifest a legal action, a wrong client, something which will bring you back down and bring you back into this comfort zone around money.

Okay, this is what happens and the reason for the thermostat analogy. My radio thingy comes to mind initially, I’m usually always cold and have set my thermostat so whenever the temperature falls to a certain point, it automatically comes on and when it goes above the same point, the heater kicks in. This is what happens with you energetically, when your financial thermostat picks up, there’s no money coming in and you really feel like, “Oh! I don’t know how I’m gonna pay the rent.” And if your financial thermostat is set to the point where you have to pay lease, your rental mortgage and your bills have to be paid and your manifesting power goes through the roof and you attract opportunities, people and money to make sure you make your commitment.

Once those commitments are met, you go back to your comfort zone and when you start making more money, you begin to manifest the very opposite, ways to lose it. These things happened to me and I’m talking from experience. When I became a millionaire at the age of 27, I completely shambled my life within a year, from property crash, my marriage ending, becoming a single mother and having a negative equity, it was really awful.

I didn’t even know at the time that I was experiencing my snapback due to energy and financial thermostat, you have to work on financial thermostat so when you start making money, obviously it happens both ways, The reverse way it happens with your lower end, It also happens at the top end as well and this is exactly what happened to me in 2008, My energy could not handle me having that kind of money, that net worth or prosperity mark so it brought me back to my financial thermostat comfort zone and I didn’t realize this for the longest time until a few years ago when I really deep dived into money, prosperity and money consciousness.

I realized my consciousness was geared towards poverty, I was programmed to be in poverty, to have poverty consciousness because that’s what I grew up in. My father was a multi millionaire, a self-made one but he too grew up in poverty and my mother left him and I grew up in the ghettos, in East London. My mind was never programmed to be prosperous, therefore I wasn’t. And the times I prospered, I brought myself back to the level I was comfortable with and subconsciously, very quickly, it only took me a year to get back to base. So now I realize the need to push up my thermostat.

Pushing up your thermostat and changing our limited beliefs

You are always going to have an upper/lower limit, you need to bring your lower limit up and take your higher limit higher so your absolute bottom limit would be a lot higher than where it is at the moment and your upper limit should be always expanding. You should always expand that further and further and further. Now in order for you to expand and grow your financial thermostat, you have to change your limiting beliefs and there are so many limited beliefs that we are programmed with as we’re growing up and these are given to us again, they are not ours.

We buy into these beliefs, they are not taken by us by choice. We may think there are thoughts now but initially there were somebody else’s thoughts and ideas and were planted into our minds as young beings and we took them on as our own and these ideas are;

  • Money is the root of all evils
  • Money doesn’t grow on trees
  • Money corrupts you
  • Money causes divorces
  • I don’t need money to be happy etc.

I have a whole program around this, it’s called Millennial foundations where we cover hundred and one limiting beliefs around money, business and success and it’s surprising how some of the beliefs are taken up by the majority of people and they don’t even see them as limited beliefs. In my programs, I explain why these beliefs can be limiting, the impact it has and we change it with energy clearance of course but it’s shocking to see how many people don’t even see them as limiting beliefs.

This is how the world goes, they have this paradigm around money and they don’t even realize it. So what we are after by changing your financial thermostat is to change you, we want to get you to change your paradigms around money and when you change your paradigm around money, you will change your financial thermostat. You actually extend it further and expand the upper limit of it, and you’ll be able to allow more money to come to you at a faster pace and allow it to stay in your energy field and you will not suffer from snapback as rapidly and eventually you should stop all together.

This financial thermostat would always happen by the way, when you get to the next upper limit, it will have a snapback and you come back down. You build it up further again and it goes further up again and you have another snap back and you come back and this is why if you look at anyone who’s successful, their journey is not an exponential line, it’s a zigzag and that’s normal as long as the trajectory is upwards, I’m okay with that because it means you need to adjust, expand your mind further and work a bit more on your beliefs, build your prosperity consciousness and that’s quite perfectly fine.

As we’re learning and growing, we’re going to have these minor snapbacks again and again but what we don’t want is a major snapback like I had back in 2008, I went from being a millionaire in 2007 at the age of 27 to being under the poverty line in 2008, having no money, no job, no partner and being a single parent, almost destitute. And having all these properties with negative equity and I was stuck, The only option was for me to go bankrupt which I chose not to do and I’m grateful that I didn’t.

So this is what we don’t want and asides that the snapbacks will continue to happen but that only is feedback given to your subconscious mind that you need to expand your financial thermostat further and further and that just means constant growth of our prosperity consciousness. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.

CONCLUSION

We should continuously continue working on our prosperity consciousness because we are a work in progress. The whole point of this life is to grow, to learn, to develop and any time you stop learning, you stop growing, you stop living.

Pay the people who make you wealthy

Quite a number of people come to mind to talk about but today’s focus is on small business owners or those building a side hustle. If you are currently either on a corporate job or you left your corporate job and you are now working on your passion or your business that you’re doing on the side, which may now be a full-time profession, Whichever one it is, I’m assuming that you have a business that you’re running now.

Also I’m going under the impression that you want to become wealthy and for that to come to fruition, you need certain people to help you get there.

 

HIRING THE RIGHT PEOPLE


Today we’re talking about paying the people who make you wealthy but who are these people? There are three people that enable your business growth that you need to pay.

  • A Business Mentor
  • A Mindset Coach
  • Yourself

1. A Business Mentor

I learned about having mentors from Tony Robbins way back, when I was in my early 20s, I remember in his book he talked about modeling and how finding somebody who has gone through the part of success you want for yourself and replicating their actions makes your journey easier. We all know that the easiest way to bake a cake is to follow a recipe and the aim is that you would go out and find a mentor who has achieved what you want to achieve who can show you the steps on the way.

The coaching industry has really exploded to a billion dollar industry over the last 10 years. It certainly has different types of people who can coach you on different things, you would get all sorts of coach from parenting to business coach to even ads coach and so forth. There are two types of coaches that I believe you would need when it comes to having a successful business and the reason why I think these two should be two distinct people is because I’m yet to find someone who excels in both, myself inclusive.

So on one hand, you definitely need a coach or a mentor, somebody who can support you in your business. For example, if you’re setting up a business in the coaching industry stuff or you’re setting up a business where you are selling some kind of a course online, any kind of business that you’re doing, Whether it’s an off line business and you are doing the marketing for your B2C business. Irrespective of what kind of business, then I recommend you go out and get a mentor. Why? Because it takes years to accumulate experience you need to build a successful six or seven figure business.

Now, I’m talking about experience as a significant business owner, that it’s much easier to go out and find a mentor who can support your journey and help you build to that significant level which is why I recommend having a business coach who can help you along. And obviously I’m not going to recommend anyone in particular. There are different types of people out there, some people are more spiritual, some are quirky, some more direct, it depends on your philosophy and the kind of person you are.

I remember these two gentlemen that I actually worked with simultaneously in the same year. The first one was very Direct, very much alpha male, stuck in a 3D world, not very spiritual but he was an awesome mentor and the other mentor was very much spiritually aligned. They were both really amazing mentors in their own respect and I resonated with both of them, one more than the other. I learned from both of them a lot and with that knowledge, I was able to drive my business to 10x growth.

An important thing I want to bring to your attention is this, When you are working with a mentor, you’re not actually investing in the mentor, but yourself. Let me explain that clearly, people are far too occupied with investing in this and that when you want to work with them. In the middle of last year, I worked with a company who promised to get me a certain amount of leads through organic marketing, really slowly and now looking back in hindsight, it was an awful company. This was when I was investing in my business, I was investing in the company and not those people, that was wrong. When you work with a mentor, you are investing in yourself because you work with somebody who can teach you, who can help you to learn the skills and give you the skills required to build the business.

So, there’s a big distinction here, you’re not investing in the mentor, You’re investing in yourself. The first thing you’re going be doing is actually learning a particular skill set that you can use to build a successful business, that’s very important distinction to have.

So the first kind of coach that I would advise you to get would be a business coach.

2. A Mindset Coach

The second coach I would want you to get is a mindset person. Now, I truly believe that in order for you to have the kind of correct mindset, you need to have the right energies. I’m all about energy healing but I’m not going to force that upon you, What I would recommend you do is go out and work with someone who’s brilliant at fixing your mindset.

It’s like going to a doctor, Would you rather go to a general practitioner, who knows bit about surgery, a bit about heart condition and a bit about diabetes or a specialist who specializes in heart surgery or one who specializes in skin conditions and does that day in day out. Same thing applies when it comes to mindset, I want you to understand how important it is, Both of these mentors are important for you but some people would go for business coach and leave mindset out but I promise you mindset is really 80% of the game because if you don’t have the right mindset coach, you are going to be doing an uphill struggle

 

This is why I work with mostly multi six/seven figure business owners because these people have their skills they’ve learned, they’ve got business coach to help them set up, but just because business coaches have helped you set up the business doesn’t mean you’re going to be successful or be as successful as you want to be because you don’t have the right mindset, it just doesn’t have the right energy around it which is why I highly recommend that you engage both sides. Both are equally important, without one or the other, your business is always going to be struggling. You’re going be stuck in the boom of cycle. You’re going to be making money and losing money or even failing to scale up to the level you want to scale, you just keep on chasing your tail. One thing leads to another and you’re never getting anywhere.

If you only have mindset strategies or mindset tools but you don’t have a proper business strategy, then you’re chasing a tail again because you have to go out and actually work with somebody who can teach you the ropes of the business. I only take people who actually have established businesses, If you don’t have established business then I would usually refer you to my other programs and my monthly membership program is better. In order for you to qualify for my mastermind program, you have to have an established business, which you’ve been running for at least a year so we know that you have the skills required for you to scale up to get the kind of results you want as there’s no point coming to join mastermind until you have those skills or you’re willing to learn those skills and invested in a business mentor.

So these are the two people that you need to bring into your world and remember you’re investing not in them but in yourself in order to have an exceptional business.

3. YOURSELF

So we have covered the two people that you definitely want to pay, Who’s the third person? There is a third person to pay and guess what? That third person is you, you are going to make yourself wealthy. Far too often I find (I’ve been guilty of this in the past) that the last person you pay is yourself.

The business has expenses and you’ve paid for everything and then there’s no money left for you. There’s no money left there to pay you and this is where the book of profit first came to my attention, it made me realize that there were aspects of my business which needed tweaking, and I did.

One of the most important thing was to remember to pay myself first, and the reason for this is that you need to understand and give the universe a clear signal that you know how to treat, respect and value money. Therefore you need to be able to pay yourself and if you’re not paying yourself first then there’s something wrong there. I covered this in “my three steps to cash for mastery”

You have to pay yourself first, regularly and continuously, it’s non-negotiable. It’s something that you have to pay even if something else has to be cut down, And when you start paying yourself regularly, you will always find ways to pay yourself and you will also have the money required for everything else.

So the three people that I recommend that you pay are your business mentor who will give you the skills required to establish and set up a successful business, Number two would be your mindset or energy coach, somebody who can help align you with the right energies and the right kind of vibration that you need to be in, in order for you to attract the right clients, the right people, the right team members for you to set up and run a successful business.

Finally, I want you to remember to pay yourself first because you matter and therefore you need to appreciate yourself in order for you to move ahead. This is without a doubt and I hope you enjoyed reading today’s episode and you realize now that the people you need to pay in order for you to become wealthy are non-negotiable.

CONCLUSION

Do you have a business or thinking about one, already have one that’s been established for present time and you’re looking to see how you can improve it. So if you are looking to do any of those things then do take this advice.

You have to have all three of these people, one you obviously have is yourself, but you need to make sure that you have the two other people in your team who will help you to become successful and become wealthy. On a 9 – 5 job alone, it’s unlikely possible so I highly recommend you set up a business.

Now, if you think that you need my help and I’m going to plug myself, if you’re looking to see how you can have my help, I would recommend you join our money mindset makeover workshops.

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