A quote I heard once said ‘There are things that we never want to let go of and people we never want to leave behind but keep in mind that letting go is not the end of the world but the beginning of a new life” and this caused an energy shift in my life because I recently had to let go of a very close relative of mine and even though it was a difficult decision to make, I have found that this decision has bettered me as a person. The reason I had to let go of this relative of mine was that we were no longer on the same mental plane and even though I still love and respect her, our conversations were beginning to feel toxic to me; actively making the painful decision to pull back and let her go ended up restoring the positive energy that had been missing in my life.
When is it time to let go?
1. When someone’s negativity is rubbing off on you: No matter how optimistic you are, being surrounded by toxic people can cause their negativity to rub off on you. You are the average of the people you spend time with so to reach your full potential, you need to be surrounded by positive people.
2. When you have grown apart from someone: I have some childhood friends who I had to let go of because our ideas of life were no longer the same, while I am more ambitious and business-minded now most of them are content with their nine-to-five jobs and where they currently are in life. So even though I still love them and wish them well, we are no longer on the same wavelength and no longer share the same core values.
3. When you are unhappy with your circumstances: Sometimes it is good to persevere and keep moving forward even though your situation seems difficult. Other times it is better to cut your losses and move on before things get even more difficult than they already are. Sometime in 2011, I set up a business with my cousin which I ended up having to let go of about two years later due to a lack of clients; even though we had gotten all the accreditations and I had invested so much money, time and energy into this business it ended up not being fruitful. There will be times that you invest in something, in this case a business, and the universe just does not want you to move in that direction but as long as you have faith that things are happening for you and not to you and that universal energy would never give up on you, you will achieve the life you have desired for yourself.
4. When your goals change: When I decided to start a family, I chose to leave my goal of being a lawyer behind and to instead raise my children myself as a stay home mom. After my separation, I became the breadwinner and had to get back to work again to provide for my family; however I did not go back to law even though I had worked so hard to get that degree. My goals in life had changed and I had to let go of my identity as a lawyer in order to pursue all the other goals I have for my life; you have to let go of your old goals and move on to this newer, higher version of yourself who has new goals that are positive for your manifestation journey. If you are in a profession and a higher self is calling towards a different goal, then divine energy is pointing you to the next challenge of achieving the life you manifested for yourself.
5. When fear is holding you back: Part of letting go and moving on is facing the disappointments and mistakes of your past. I have been divorced for about six years now and a question I am always asked is why I have not moved on to another relationship after all this time; at first, I used my children and work as my excuse but I soon realized that I was letting my fear of having another narcissistic abusive partner hold me back from moving forward with a new partner. Whether it is a business or a partnership, you cannot let the bad experiences you have had in the past deter you from reaching your full potential and manifesting the dreams you have for your life.
6. When you are still living in your past: Sometimes we allow ourselves to develop these unrealistic expectations of ourselves, family members, friends, businesses, relationships, etcetera, and when these expectations are not met, we complain about what could have been and how we could have changed our past situations. If you do not allow yourself to let go of the sadness and pain from your past, you will never be able to move forward in your manifestation journey.
7. When you are holding grudges: Old grudges are only capable of hurting you if you allow them to. A grudge I remember having to let go of was one I had been holding against my brother and my sister-in-law; my brother had refused to let me move out of the house until I got married while his wife made it very difficult for me while I lived there and even though I love my brother so much right now our relationship was very different. I had not lived in their house since 2005 but I let myself carry that negative energy for years and was allowing this past event to stop me from moving forward and achieving the life of success that I was manifesting for myself.
8. When you are only seeing the pain from an experience and not the lesson: Everything that happens in your life happens for a reason and if you only allow yourself to see the pain an event has caused you, you will not be able to learn any lessons from these situations. You have to learn to not just let go of the pain of your past but to also let go of the self-made expectations you could not meet and forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made. Let the pain go and embrace the lessons you learned from the experience instead.
Focus on the lesson, not the pain
During a recent visit to Pakistan, I was introduced to some relatives I had never met before and while I interacted with them I realized that even after being gone for 17 years, all these people still behaved the same way they did in the past. This was the universe showing me that even though I walk around trying my best to ignore it, most people behave badly and whether I believe it or not there will always be people whose energies are not good for me; this was a hard lesson for me to learn especially because it meant letting go of some people who were really close to me but unfortunately fit this description. Life has taught me that I cannot have blind faith in everyone and this lesson has saved me a lot of heartache for the future.
Tips on how to let go
1. Accept what happened and show gratitude for it: There is always some element of good that comes from a situation, no matter how bad the situation might have been. Bob Proctor once said ‘Whatever happens to you, there are equal amounts of good and bad’ meaning on your manifestation journey things are always balanced, if something good happens to you it is likely that something bad could happen to you as well. Accept reality as it is and show gratitude to the universe for the truth that you have now been made aware of.
2. Build some distance between the people you need to let go of: You need to build some distance between yourself and the people with negative energy in your life. There are people, for example family members or work colleagues, that you cannot completely avoid talking to completely so you can instead cut ties with them. Put some physical distance between you and them as well as energetic distance in order for you to recreate your relationship from a new angle.
3. Focus on what can be changed: In my case, I have been using Facebook as my primary platform for growing my business but now I am looking at other platforms which could help me expand better. You need to realise that when one door closes, the universe is always there opening other doors for you; let go of the closed door and focus on what can make your situation better and move you forward on your manifestation journey.
4. Be in control of your life: To truly let go, you need to claim ownership of your life. Do not let yourself live by other people’s views and standards, instead take responsibility for the events that are occurring in your life whether they are good or bad; I had to learn that if I could manifest the hurtful events I went through for myself then I could manifest wealth and prosperity into my life as well so I took personal responsibility for the bad of my past and refused to allow it define who I am today. Take personal responsibility for the events you are experiencing and make changes that will benefit your journey to wealth and elevate your positive vibration.
5. Be focused: Pay attention to the thoughts, words, and actions you are making and have positive conversations with your inner self to avoid manifesting negativity into your life. Everything that is showing up in your physical world externally is a direct reflection of what is happening in your inner world so take responsibility for the conversations you have with your inner self and focus on the positives to reap positive results.
6. Let go: Stop allowing yourself to associate with the people who radiate negative energy in your life, no matter who they are. Spend the limited time we have on earth with the people who spread positivity and make you feel good about yourself, not belittle you or make you feel like everything is wrong. If someone does not value who you are then you should not be spending the majority of your time with them.
Conclusion
Identify those people you need to let go of for you to move on and be happy with your life. Allow yourself to live in today, not in your past or in what your future will be because today is the moment that truly matters; your current life is the only thing that you can truly change so make sure to spend today thinking and manifesting positivity for your future self to enjoy tomorrow.
This is the same thing that happens with your manifestations, there are some situations when there is evidence of improvement, for example when you are healing from a previous illness even when you have not completely recovered from it yet. Unfortunately, there are times things do not work out the way you expect them to, especially when it comes to financial situations but if you are expectant of your miracle and you firmly hold on to your faith in divine energy then you do not need to be afraid of what is to come.
There is always an internal battle in our minds between fear and faith. Usually in my line of business, I meet a lot of people who failed in their entrepreneurial journeys not because they lack the talent or charisma but because they lack faith in divine energy. Before any dream is manifested, there is always a period of darkness when it feels like divine energy is silent on the situation you are going through; my mother used to say ‘the darkest part of the night is just before dawn’ so when God is about to do something great in your life, you might experience a period of equal difficulty but as long as you hold on to faith and expect miracles during these adversities divine energy will come through for you.
I have various responsibilities I handle and people I need to support and because of how sensitive a person I am, I end up having to handle my numerous emotions while dealing with all these duties I have but it is my continuous faith in divine energy that constantly keeps me going no matter the obstacles. In life, there will always be issues to deal with and hurdles that you need to face, your job is to continuously speak miracles into your life and hold on to faith that universal energy will make a way for you. I live my life continuously expecting miracles whether it is in my business, my relationship, my daughter’s GCSE exams, or my son’s school selection, no matter what the situation is I always expect miracles and I always expect divine energy to come through for me. Call these miracles into your life at every opportunity and thank universal energy for their constant support, opportunities, grace, and everything you are manifesting for yourself knowing God has a plan for you.
Ask universal energy for help in that dark moment and give yourself the space to feel these emotions without speaking and dwelling on them. Do not allow yourself to stay in that dark place and once you have let all the sad emotions out, know that God has heard you and is solving your problems. You have the power to speak miracles for yourself but you need to expect them first and ask divine energy to help you in both your high and low moments. Start expecting miracles that will take you to the next level with ease because expecting miracles are essential for your miracles to show up.
I was talking to one of my clients and she asked why she was able to manifest everything else she wanted for herself but not a partner, I explained to her that usually if you can create one area of your life, you can work on all other areas of your life. However, if you find that you are unable to manifest desires easily in a certain area of your life, it is very likely that you have some negative energy/emotions attached to this particular area. In her situation, she was dealing with past emotional trauma from her ex-husband and this was making her push the energy for having a potential partner away from her life in order to prevent her from experiencing heartbreak and betrayal again; it was not her inability to properly manifest a partner but rather her fears from her past experiences that were stopping her from leaning into the positive expectations for this goal even though she was able to overcome her other fears and accomplish all the other desires she had for herself.
Even when your desire seems delayed, you have to trust in divine timing and that universal energy in their wisdom will give you what you have manifested for yourself. If you already know how to manifest the dreams you have then you are not dreaming big enough; start making impossible goals for yourself, goals that can only be solved by divine intervention and by universal energy’s involvement. Have positive expectations for these large impossible desires and watch your manifestations become reality in your physical world.
The reason we do not allow ourselves to dream bigger is that we do not truly believe that we can create miracles nor do we believe that divine energy is ready to give us the supernatural help we would need to manifest magnificent goals. Most of the people who invested in things like cryptocurrency and ended up forming companies like Canva and Uber have become billionaires over the space of a few years because they decided to dream big and found themselves in the right place at the right time.
It is not just enough to dream; you must also believe in these dreams and listen to the conversations universal energy is willing to have with you. These conversations come to you in the form of desires and goals and God brings them to you this way in order for you to grow and materialize these desires in the physical world.
You have the ability to create anything you desire because divine energy has already given you all the skills, abilities, and resources you would need to fulfill these desires. I was told a story once of a husband who was trying to answer his wife’s questions about creating her own reality but was unable to within his ability so he was reached out to by another man who was willing to help explain it to her, the other man advised him to place a 20$ bill in his wife’s book in order to solve her problem so he did. During the next lecture, the wife once again stood up full of questions and gently, the man asked her to open her book and hand him a 20$ bill. The wife continuously protested, insisting she had no money on her person at all, and ended up being annoyed and agitated even as the man gently asked her to just check her book and hand him the bill, finally she opened the book just to prove to him that there was nothing there but instead ended up surprised to find the 20$ bill in it. The man then explained this point to her which I believe is also applicable to all of us; if the universe is continuously repeating a desire to you it means that you already have the skills and resources you would need to fulfill these desires, even if you are unaware of it, so instead of arguing and complaining it is your responsibility to open your heart and search within yourself for these gifts instilled in you to achieve these dreams.
You are a creative being born with all sorts of skills and abilities to achieve these amazing desires for your life. Even though they may be latent or underdeveloped, God knows you have the ability to do so much more than you could ever imagine which is why they always believe in you, you have to now accept this and believe in yourself and God’s plan for you.
God’s will is not for you to have challenges however everything that happens to you happens with God’s permission. Divine energy can see how the challenge you are facing is going to help move you toward your full potential and it allows you to face these challenges to unlock these hidden gifts within you that you would not have been able to see while you are comfortable and content with your current life. I have had to deal with many painful, hurtful issues and challenges in life but each of these circumstances has helped me grow and become who I am today. I know they were brought into my life with the permission of God, not as a punishment or an attack from divine energy but because they love you and they want you to do well and grow as a person.
The devil throws all sorts of trouble your way just so you can doubt divine energy and the support they continuously give you. He wants you to believe all these lies he is telling you and become ungrateful for everything divine energy has done for you so far; but if God will come through for you in one area of your life why would they be praised in another area? Divine energy is good at all times and any test you have to face, no matter how big, happens with the permission of God. It is your responsibility to deal with whatever trials the devil throws your way and hold on to faith that divine energy would always make a way for you.
Hold on to your faith and your dreams. Remember that if you are going through a challenge it was orchestrated by the devil, not by God, but God has given permission for that challenge to happen so that you can have faith and overcome the problems you are facing. And no matter how long this might take, as long as you consistently hold on to faith in divine energy and the plans that they have for you, you will be able to overcome whatever challenge the devil would have for you. Be patient and trust the process, things will unfold in their own time.
Personally, I have had to deal with a lot of ugly moments in my life and as a British-born Pakistani woman, there has always been some stigma attached to these moments from my community. I have been divorced twice and in both marriages, I dealt with some form of abuse – physical abuse from my first husband and verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my second one who eventually left me with the most trauma, emotionally and energetically; One of the things he said to me towards the end, after I had caught him cheating and he had confessed to various other awful things he had done, was that no one would say anything to him even after what he had done to me and all fingers would eventually end up pointing in my direction since I was the one who had been divorced before.
Keep your vibration elevated, and the only way you can keep your vibration elevated is by continuously being in a state of gratitude even for the things that you should ordinarily not be grateful for. It is easy to show gratitude when things are going your way in life but it is important to show gratitude when you do not physically see those good results or when the shame of your past is being brought in front of you. Instead of being angry at the person that is trying to make you feel small, cut costs, allow yourself to send them love and blessings instead of animosity, and move on. When this incident at the embassy happened to me, I could have gone back into victim mode and allowed myself to get upset, yet I chose to forgive and move past this individual as well as show gratitude for all the experiences that have made me who I am today. And when you are in that state of gratitude and love, not just towards divine energy but to yourself as well, that is when you begin to open yourself up to abundance in all areas of your life.
Faith has to do with a strong belief in the supernatural, in something above us, something higher than us, it could be God , Brahman, the universe, your intuition and trusting that our interests are protected.
Have an idea of where you are going and be intentional. Your intentions acts a compass, a beacon of where you want to go. You need to have intentions of what you want placed, it grounds you and sets you on the direction that you’re going. You can’t get what you want unless you know where you’re going to get this.
Once you have laid out your intentions, the next step is to surrender to the outcome. You cannot decide where you want to go, in which direction you want to go but how you get there is mostly up to divine energy.
And God was like, what’s wrong? And the answer is well, you know, in the times of my darkness and my darkest hour, you left me alone. There’s only one set of footsteps there so that means I was alone. And God turns around and says to this woman “My child, the reason why they’re only one set of footsteps in those moments is because during those moments of hardships, I carried you” . And that story has always stuck with me, it really resonates with me because that’s kind thing that I would think God would say to me, “Look, that’s when I was carrying you, you didn’t have the energy to walk”
Everyday moments serve as lessons and reminders to us.
It does not matter how difficult the journey or task is, if you are just interested in the final destination, you will miss out on most of the journey if getting to that final stage or whatever number it is, is all your focused on because the fun is actually in the journey and it does not matter how difficult or cumbersome it becomes, you need to enjoy all parts of the journey sometimes when it’s really difficult, you may not enjoy it but you can still be optimistic.
Take one step at a time, If you look at how great your journey is and you can’t even see half the time how long it will take you to get to a particular destination, you will be overwhelmed and you will fall back, you will not have the stamina, the courage or the strength to carry on but the best way is to focus on the task at hand and think about moving just the 1-10 steps that you can see at the moment, Don’t worry about where you will go after because as soon as you cross the first initial steps, you would be given instructions on how to move from there onwards.
It is very important to surround yourself with the right people. In this Lord of Rings, I don’t think Frodo would have gotten anywhere without Sam, Sam was crucial towards the latter part of the journey because he kept his strength and his spirits up even at a point he had to carry Frodo on his shoulder up to the mountain because Frodo ran out of energy. Sometimes you have these friends who cannot do what you need to do but they carry you on their shoulders, they can’t carry your burden, but they can carry you. I think that is such a beautiful line when Sam says “Frodo, I cannot carry your burden but I can carry you” , you need to have those friends with you who can carry you further.
Have a clear understanding of who you are and all you are capable of.
What does wealth really mean to you?
I tend to attract audiences or people who are similar to myself, it’s not just about creating wealth. You want to create generational wealth, a legacy that you can leave behind once you pass on to the next dimension. It’s much more grander than your own physical need, it’s really not just about the car or house or the success that comes to you, It’s about creating that legacy and leaving that activity behind, inspiring others through your legacy and your work. This is what true wealth means to me, unfortunately we get so tied to the physical aspects like the car, house, fame that we forget what we are really working for. How much money do you actually need to live the life of your dreams and if you sit and work out how much money you need to live comfortably and happily, It will be nowhere near the number that you’re striving to get to.
If you are currently struggling with connecting with financial wealth because this is not why money is important to you, I want you to think in grander terms and expand your mind to know what wealth means to you. Ask yourself these questions;
Those young girls grow up in abusive environments and they have no one to turn to, and as soon as they voice that they don’t want to be abused or treated this way, the society tags them as girls with bad characters and blames them. This was when my purpose was born, the desire to create something bigger than myself and in order for me to do this, I need to create wealth for myself, to create those choices for myself, to be able to do the things I need to do for myself and others. I want to inspire and empower these girls and women to get out and make something of herself. To create this amazing life of her own, to be financially independent and I can make a difference in my life and those around me with my story.
We all need wealth because it is a financial freedom. In pursuit of this wealth, think of a legacy that you will leave behind when you are no more, a journey that can be carried out without us. This is what true wealth is