In today’s world, both men and women face unique challenges when it comes to managing their finances while nurturing their personal lives. Women often struggle with balancing their careers and family life, while men may find it difficult to maintain their role as providers and protectors. However, with the right mindset and strategies, it is possible to take control of your financial well-being while nurturing your personal life. As a money mindset coach, I believe it’s crucial for women to understand the relationship between money and their feminine energy. In this post, I’ll share my personal experiences with financial abuse and finding balance between my femininity and financial independence.
The Importance of Understanding the Relationship Between Women, Money, and Feminine Energy
The way we perceive money is deeply intertwined with our beliefs about ourselves and our worth as women. Society has taught us that money is a symbol of power and success, and for a long time, women were not encouraged to take control of their finances. However, things are changing, and it’s now more important than ever for women to understand the role that money plays in their lives and how it’s linked to their feminine energy.
Money and femininity are not mutually exclusive. Women can be feminine and powerful, and they can also be financially independent. In fact, embracing your femininity can help you be more successful with money. As women, we have unique skills and traits that can help us succeed, such as empathy, intuition, and collaboration.
To understand the relationship between women, money, and feminine energy, it’s essential to first understand your own relationship with money. Take some time to reflect on your beliefs about money and where they come from. Are you comfortable talking about money? Do you feel confident making financial decisions? By understanding your own relationship with money, you can start to see how it’s linked to your feminine energy.
My Personal Experiences with Financial Abuse and Finding Balance
I’ve experienced financial abuse from both my first and second husbands, which has made me realize the importance of financial independence. In my first marriage, my husband became highly abusive and controlling towards me and our finances because he was uncomfortable with me being the breadwinner. In my second marriage, my husband forced me to accept his girlfriend as his second wife, and I had to give up my financial independence to keep a roof over my head.
These experiences have taught me the importance of finding a balance between my femininity and financial independence. It’s essential to embrace my feminine energy while also taking control of my finances. I’ve learned that financial independence is not just about providing for myself but also having the freedom to live my life on my terms.
The Power of Feminine Energy in Financial Planning
Feminine energy is a powerful force that has the potential to transform every aspect of our lives, including our finances. Feminine energy is often associated with nurturing, intuition, creativity, and collaboration. It is a force that helps us connect with our emotions and inner wisdom, which enables us to make better decisions.
In financial planning, feminine energy can help us create a balanced and holistic approach to our finances. It can help us connect with our values and priorities, which enables us to make better financial decisions. Additionally, feminine energy can help us develop healthy relationships with money and overcome any limiting beliefs that prevent us from achieving financial success.
Embracing Your Feminine Energy While Taking Control of Your Finances
Many women struggle with the idea of financial independence because they fear that it might make them seem less feminine or even threaten their relationships. However, it’s essential to understand that financial independence doesn’t have to compromise your femininity or your relationships. Instead, it can be a source of empowerment and freedom that allows you to take charge of your life on your own terms.
To achieve this balance, it’s crucial to understand the role that feminine energy plays in our financial lives. Feminine energy is often associated with qualities such as empathy, compassion, intuition, and nurturing. These qualities can be extremely beneficial in managing our finances, such as having empathy for others’ financial situations or using intuition to make sound financial decisions.
At the same time, it’s important not to allow these qualities to make you vulnerable to financial abuse or manipulation. It’s essential to be assertive, set boundaries, and stand up for yourself when it comes to your finances. This doesn’t mean you have to be aggressive or masculine, but rather assertive in a way that’s true to your feminine energy.
One way to embrace both your femininity and financial independence is by reframing the way you view money. Instead of seeing it as a source of power or control, see it as a tool that can be used to create the life you desire. By doing so, you can align your financial goals with your values and use your money to create a life that feels authentic and fulfilling.
Another way to balance feminine energy and financial independence is by seeking out support and resources that align with your values. For example, finding a financial advisor who understands the importance of balancing femininity and financial independence can be extremely beneficial. Additionally, surrounding yourself with a community of like-minded women who share your values can provide a supportive and empowering environment to help you achieve your financial goals.
Balancing Career Breaks
Career breaks can be beneficial for women who have children, as it can provide them with the time and space to concentrate on their personal life. However, it’s essential to balance this break with your career, especially when it comes to finances. Women who take a career break may face challenges when returning to work, such as earning less or being overlooked for promotions.
It’s important to ensure that you’re financially stable during your career break, and this can be achieved through saving and investing. By developing a financial plan and being disciplined with your money, you can ensure that you have the financial resources you need during your break and when you return to work.
It’s also essential to create a relaxed environment during your career break, especially if you have children. Stressful situations, such as reading depositions while trying to put a baby to sleep, can negatively affect both you and your child. It’s important to prioritize your personal life during this time and ensure that you have a healthy work-life balance.
Embracing Masculine Energy as a Provider and Protector
For men, there comes a time when you need to be the provider and protector of your family. It’s essential to educate yourself about money and develop the right understanding of it. Both men and women need to have a healthy relationship with money at certain periods in their lives.
For men, regardless of age, it’s time to step into your masculine energy and fulfill your role as a provider and protector. Being responsible for the financial well-being of your family can be a significant source of pride and fulfillment.
Developing a Healthy Relationship with Money
Your relationship with money is crucial in achieving financial independence. Many people grow up with certain beliefs and attitudes towards money that may be limiting and prevent them from achieving their financial goals. This is where working on your money mindset comes in.
It involves identifying and letting go of any limiting beliefs you have about money and adopting new, positive beliefs that align with your financial goals.
For example, if you have a belief that “money is the root of all evil,” it may be challenging to achieve financial success because your subconscious mind will always be working against you. You can replace this belief with a positive one such as “money is a tool to create a better life for myself and my loved ones.”
Developing a healthy relationship with money involves understanding that money is not just about accumulation, but about the positive impact it can have on your life and the lives of others. When you view money as a tool to create a fulfilling life, it becomes easier to manage it and make decisions that align with your financial goals.
Another way to develop a healthy relationship with money is by practicing gratitude. Focus on what you have, rather than what you don’t have. This helps you cultivate a sense of abundance and attract more prosperity into your life.
Additionally, it’s crucial to develop a financial plan that aligns with your values and priorities. This plan should include short-term and long-term financial goals, a budget, and a plan for unexpected expenses.
Conclusion
Understanding money and how it relates to different periods in our lives is crucial for our financial well-being. It’s essential to educate ourselves about money, take care of ourselves during career breaks, and embrace our feminine or masculine energy as appropriate. By doing so, we can achieve financial success and fulfillment while living our lives to the fullest.
Achieving financial independence is possible for anyone, regardless of their gender. However, as a woman, it’s essential to understand the relationship between money and feminine energy and find a balance between the two.
This involves embracing your femininity while also taking control of your finances, becoming financially literate, working on your money mindset, and developing a healthy relationship with money. Additionally, surrounding yourself with a supportive community can help you stay motivated and on track towards your financial goals.
Remember, achieving financial independence is not just about the numbers, but about creating a balanced and fulfilling life that aligns with your values and priorities.
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Have an abundance mindset. Successful people focus on what they have rather than on what they lack; they believe that all the resources they need are available and instead of waiting for opportunities to come to them, they focus on creating opportunities that will aid them in reaching their success.
Weigh the pros and cons of your possibility first before you take the leap of faith and go for it; there will be times when it looks crazy to other people but as long as it is a risk you have calculated and you have considered the losses that you might take then have faith in your decision and do not be afraid.
There have been people who have made large amounts of money quickly, for example, lottery winners, athletes, etcetera, but because of their ingratitude they ended up losing this wealth just as quickly; Gratitude not only brings wealth but keeps that prosperity in your life as well.
When those moments of doubt from the devil creep into your life, it is essential that you have strong faith in your beliefs and for this faith to be as firm as you need, you need to have hope. Personally, when I am at my lowest or darkest moments, I turn to prayers more than anything else naturally because that connection with the divine reinforces my hope in God and the plans he has for my life which helps recharge my faith that everything I am manifesting will fall into place according to divine timing. 
Make sure that you have a ritual, prayer, or meditation that gives you hope every day and this hope fuels your faith in divine energy or whatever higher power you believe in. Shah Rukh Khan believed in his dreams, worked for them, and was able to achieve them over and over again; no matter how much effort you put into something, if you do not have the belief it will not work out the way you have envisioned it to work out.
Do not put limitations on yourself; the desires you truly want are coming to you from your higher self via divine energy so they are not just random events that are occurring in your mind’s eye.
When you come from this energy, things will always work in your favor. If there is something you truly desire then you need to develop the conviction for it first; manifesting tools that can help you get rid of doubts and instill these convictions inside of you include the mirror exercise (my personal favorite), daily affirmations, vision boards etcetera. Something I teach beginners of my mastermind class is having a manifestation roadmap; we get on a call together, I give them my favorite techniques, we discuss what they truly desire, and techniques we use daily in order to turn these beliefs into convictions in daily lives.

Have a clear vision for your goal and always write your goals in the present tense. Why do you believe that it must take two to five years for you to achieve your goal of making a hundred thousand a month? Why do you think you cannot achieve it in the next month or few months?
You have to know that before your manifestation appears in your physical world, you will face some form of turmoil or challenge during your journey. The breakdown will always happen before the breakthrough so hold on to faith with both hands in these trying times; it is at that moment that those who are truly manifesting become separated from those who do not have belief in their dreams.

Focus on yourself and your beliefs; The quicker you can change your beliefs, the quicker you will be able to create a new reality for yourself. Find new techniques and modalities that can help you identify and instill new beliefs in yourself. Change your beliefs and create a new reality for yourself to make your manifestations a part of your physical world.

I was talking to one of my clients and she asked why she was able to manifest everything else she wanted for herself but not a partner, I explained to her that usually if you can create one area of your life, you can work on all other areas of your life. However, if you find that you are unable to manifest desires easily in a certain area of your life, it is very likely that you have some negative energy/emotions attached to this particular area. In her situation, she was dealing with past emotional trauma from her ex-husband and this was making her push the energy for having a potential partner away from her life in order to prevent her from experiencing heartbreak and betrayal again; it was not her inability to properly manifest a partner but rather her fears from her past experiences that were stopping her from leaning into the positive expectations for this goal even though she was able to overcome her other fears and accomplish all the other desires she had for herself.
Even when your desire seems delayed, you have to trust in divine timing and that universal energy in their wisdom will give you what you have manifested for yourself. If you already know how to manifest the dreams you have then you are not dreaming big enough; start making impossible goals for yourself, goals that can only be solved by divine intervention and by universal energy’s involvement. Have positive expectations for these large impossible desires and watch your manifestations become reality in your physical world.
The reason we do not allow ourselves to dream bigger is that we do not truly believe that we can create miracles nor do we believe that divine energy is ready to give us the supernatural help we would need to manifest magnificent goals. Most of the people who invested in things like cryptocurrency and ended up forming companies like Canva and Uber have become billionaires over the space of a few years because they decided to dream big and found themselves in the right place at the right time.
It is not just enough to dream; you must also believe in these dreams and listen to the conversations universal energy is willing to have with you. These conversations come to you in the form of desires and goals and God brings them to you this way in order for you to grow and materialize these desires in the physical world.
You have the ability to create anything you desire because divine energy has already given you all the skills, abilities, and resources you would need to fulfill these desires. I was told a story once of a husband who was trying to answer his wife’s questions about creating her own reality but was unable to within his ability so he was reached out to by another man who was willing to help explain it to her, the other man advised him to place a 20$ bill in his wife’s book in order to solve her problem so he did. During the next lecture, the wife once again stood up full of questions and gently, the man asked her to open her book and hand him a 20$ bill. The wife continuously protested, insisting she had no money on her person at all, and ended up being annoyed and agitated even as the man gently asked her to just check her book and hand him the bill, finally she opened the book just to prove to him that there was nothing there but instead ended up surprised to find the 20$ bill in it. The man then explained this point to her which I believe is also applicable to all of us; if the universe is continuously repeating a desire to you it means that you already have the skills and resources you would need to fulfill these desires, even if you are unaware of it, so instead of arguing and complaining it is your responsibility to open your heart and search within yourself for these gifts instilled in you to achieve these dreams.
You are a creative being born with all sorts of skills and abilities to achieve these amazing desires for your life. Even though they may be latent or underdeveloped, God knows you have the ability to do so much more than you could ever imagine which is why they always believe in you, you have to now accept this and believe in yourself and God’s plan for you.

God’s will is not for you to have challenges however everything that happens to you happens with God’s permission. Divine energy can see how the challenge you are facing is going to help move you toward your full potential and it allows you to face these challenges to unlock these hidden gifts within you that you would not have been able to see while you are comfortable and content with your current life. I have had to deal with many painful, hurtful issues and challenges in life but each of these circumstances has helped me grow and become who I am today. I know they were brought into my life with the permission of God, not as a punishment or an attack from divine energy but because they love you and they want you to do well and grow as a person.
The devil throws all sorts of trouble your way just so you can doubt divine energy and the support they continuously give you. He wants you to believe all these lies he is telling you and become ungrateful for everything divine energy has done for you so far; but if God will come through for you in one area of your life why would they be praised in another area? Divine energy is good at all times and any test you have to face, no matter how big, happens with the permission of God. It is your responsibility to deal with whatever trials the devil throws your way and hold on to faith that divine energy would always make a way for you.
Hold on to your faith and your dreams. Remember that if you are going through a challenge it was orchestrated by the devil, not by God, but God has given permission for that challenge to happen so that you can have faith and overcome the problems you are facing. And no matter how long this might take, as long as you consistently hold on to faith in divine energy and the plans that they have for you, you will be able to overcome whatever challenge the devil would have for you. Be patient and trust the process, things will unfold in their own time.

If your mouth is poor and you are using words that are keeping you in lack and scarcity, then your life will be full of lack and scarcity. This is where a lot of people end up getting stuck in their manifestation journeys; they attend a workshop, make plans to create new realities for themselves, spend the next few days making manifestations and sending signals into the universe, and then the moment the vibrations from the past due to their actions from a few days or months ago begin to actualize themselves in the physical world they begin to allow doubt and negative thoughts to creep in and cause negative vibrations for their future. To successfully reach these new realities of wealth that you have manifested for yourself, you need to be patient and have a rich mouth no matter what you are seeing externally in the physical world because what you are currently seeing are the thoughts and vibrations of your past and the thoughts and vibrations you make now whether positive or negative will be what affects your future tomorrow.
While we are in this physical world, we have been given all the tools to create the life of our dreams but to do this we have been instructed to be patient and to trust in the timing of divine energy. Unfortunately, most of us are impatient in this human form and we have trouble accepting that there is a delay between making your manifestation, aligning with what you want, and then seeing this want manifest externally in the physical world. This delay, however, is important because it allows you to reassess and make sure that you do want what you think you want as well as allows you to realign with that new reality you are manifesting. Sometimes we need this time to control our emotions and forgive people so we do not end up making future vibrations with angry thoughts and words.