Did you know that when you start to focus on yourself, good things happen?
Focusing on yourself gives you the chance to be grateful. And when you do, true abundance, wealth, and happiness happen.
Today, we’ll talk about how you can focus on yourself and tap into more opportunities for yourself and others.
Let’s get started.
What does focusing on yourself mean?
Most people usually think that focusing on yourself equates to narcissism. Some of us think it is selfish to just focus on you.
But that is not the case. It is actually about having a good sense of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-love.
Let’s define the differences between the three, so we have a better understanding of how we can achieve them.
Self-esteem is how you think others see you, while self-worth is how you see yourself.
Self-love is accepting who you are. Self-love is also making sure that your actions affect you positively.
Let’s compare that to narcissism. Narcissism is thinking that we are above everyone else.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder usually involves behaviors that often lack empathy and consideration for other people. They also often have an extreme and constant need for admiration.
Narcissists also often use harmful behaviors to manipulate others into doing what they want.
This is exactly the opposite of what we mean.
Focusing on yourself means prioritizing your needs for your well-being.
Mothers often think of their families before themselves. And because of that, we often forget to focus on ourselves.
That’s why you often hear mothers talk of being too tired to do anything else.
We often forget that our self-worth defines the standards you set for ourselves. You create the space that’s supportive of your growth.
Loving yourself won’t let you get affected by negative things. Self-love reminds you of what you deserve and don’t.
So, if you know all of that, you can chase only the best opportunities that will create abundance for you.
You won’t let yourself fall into situations that will only make you lose wealth than gain wealth.
Now, how do you make sure that you have a good sense of self-esteem, worth, and love? Focus on yourself.
How can I just focus on myself?
But Gull, I do focus on myself.
I get regular massages, I exercise, I try to eat healthily. And I do journaling to understand my thoughts.
But why hasn’t this created an abundance of wealth yet?
The problem is, we often focus on other people’s success and measure it with ours.
We tend to create standards from how we see other people and from what we see in the media.
That’s the real struggle. How do we create our own standards that fit us?
Here are a few things that will help you boost your self and focus on yourself.
Receive with gratitude
Believe that whatever good you are receiving is what you deserve.
And then, be thankful rather than doubting your blessings.
A lot of people always seem to think that if they don’t do enough to earn their greatness, but if you receive with gratitude then more of these things will come to you.
Do things you love
Start investing time in your hobbies or learning something new.
Think of that one thing you didn’t do because you always say you don’t have time because you are too busy working on your job or business. Do that now.
When you make time for the things you love doing, you give yourself time to grow. You give yourself time to focus on what you truly want.
Journal
Write down your thoughts and feelings. List down affirmations and your best assets.
Take note of the things you’re thankful for each day.
Journaling gives you a safe space to write down anything you are too embarrassed to say out loud.
Tracking your behaviors and feelings will help you become aware of what you should be focusing on.
Focusing on gratitude gives you less time to think about the negative situations in your life.
You’ll notice how your focus will shift dramatically. Certain people and situations become less triggering.
And all of a sudden, these things start affecting how you act and feel, and it takes away the fact that you should’ve been focused on yourself instead.
Why is focusing on yourself important?
There are many benefits when you start focusing on improving yourself.
For starters, working on ourselves will help boost our self-esteem and that will lead us to believe that we deserve the abundance we receive.
We took a few reasons from Positivity Blog to tell us why it is so important to focus on yourself.
Self-love is empowering
We tend to adjust who we are based on our social media feeds.
We do this because we feel that this is what will make other people like us.
But that is not the case. You have to like who you are for people to like you.
Liking yourself is power. Knowing yourself is strength.
This way no one can break who you are down. And those who try to aren’t the ones you should be surrounding yourselves with in the first place.
Limits negative emotions
Having great self-esteem will eliminate the need for other people’s validation.
When you always need to hear affirmations from others, the negative things will impact you greatly too.
Focusing on who you are and what you like about yourself will save you time that you spend feeling bad about yourself.
This way life doesn’t have to be hard too. You can start living life just focusing on you because you don’t have to impress anyone else.
Your thoughts manifest into reality
If you think good about yourself, it is easy to feel good and think good about others too.
But if you look at yourself negatively, it will also manifest in the way you look at other people.
You always have to look within and work on that before you can make others feel good too.
If you achieve these positive things into your life, it will be easy to manifest abundance because you will think that you deserve it.
It will be easy to receive abundance as well because you know your worth, and that is what the universe will give you.
That is why focusing on yourself is so essential because by doing this you will block what is not serving you.
How do I focus on myself and be happy and abundant?
I haven’t watched the news in years.
It’s just too much information for me to absorb. The news will find a way to me if it’s really important
While some people find the need to keep updated with the news, I just feel like it’s not for me.
Sometimes you just have to let other people be. You can always agree to disagree and be fine with it.
The people who knew me in the past nows how much I love discussions. I love picking brains and talking things out.
But as I grew older, I realized there’s no use in convincing others about changing their thoughts. Not everyone is going to be ready to accept what’s truly best for them.
And I’m at peace with that.
I don’t let other people’s opinions get to me.
The trick to this is being self-aware as well. Know what you believe in, and don’t let the negative comments get to you.
So be aware of the people you hang around with because they can affect how you think.
This doesn’t mean that you should start cutting out all the people in your life. This just means that you have to be conscious of what information you retain from them.
According to Greater Good Magazine, people feel more satisfied when they help others. And they feel more exhausted when they treat themselves.
I think that we live in a world where we think it is selfish to give ourselves what we want, but that is not the case. We should always find a balance of helping others but also helping ourselves.
This is our path to our happiness. And when we are happy, abundance will follow.
Read more about self-love and abundance here: https://gullkhan.com/2020/08/22/self-love-abundance/
Conclusion
Abundance starts when you focus on yourself.
When you do, you realize your own worth and focus on what’s truly important to you.
Then you notice the right things and opportunities that align with your mindset. And that’s where true wealth is.
Check out more about focusing on yourself in my podcast below.
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