Do you struggle with self-love?
Are you embarrassed about something that happened in your life?
If you’re struggling with accepting and embracing your ugly, then this one is for you.
Today I’ll be talking about the importance of self-love and how to embrace your ugly.
Embracing thy Ugly
Everyone has a past. And every person deals with something that they want to hide from the spotlight.
Some suffer from the trauma they experienced as a child.
Others deal with the shame of current failures and betrayals.
It’s always difficult because we all have to deal with the judgment that comes with the pain.
I know, because like you, I have my way of embracing my ugly.
It took me a while to talk about my demons and get over the shame I felt.
See I come from Asian roots and a conservative family at that. As a woman, I was expected to behave in a certain way.
I tried my best to find a balance between living my life to the fullest and being a dutiful daughter to my family.
Unfortunately, things didn’t work out as planned.
I ended up getting married and divorced twice. I had a child for each marriage.
I suffered verbal and physical abuse and even caught my husband cheating red-handed.
There were a few in the family who told me that I was supposed to stay through the marriage for the kids.
Some talked behind my back and ostracised me for wanting to divorce both husbands.
And for a time, it caused me to lose my self-worth.
It was only when I decided to confront this fear of judgment for family, friends, peers that things changed.
I knew there will be raised eyebrows when I started to share my story. But I didn’t mind.
It made me real and relatable. And it made those who went through the same thing feel empowered.
My story of defeat, the deepest, darkest parts of my being turned to be my superpower.
Instead of shame, I felt liberated, loved, and supported.
I no longer need to fear judgment because I have accepted what I thought were my ugly parts.
So what do I mean when I talk about embracing your ugly and the importance of self-love?
It goes beyond the state of feeling good. Self-love is beyond skin-deep.
Psychology Today’s self-love definition is a state of appreciation for oneself. It grows from our actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.
It’s the dynamic that causes maturity in us. It means accepting your strengths and embracing our weaknesses.
Self-love also means having more compassion for ourselves as human beings. It also defines our need to thrive and live fulfilling lives.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you think you’re above everyone else. It also doesn’t mean you think you’re better.
For me, is learning to accept your mistakes and shortcomings as a part of what makes you unique.
What is the Importance of Self-love?
You might think practicing self-love comes innately in everyone. Unfortunately, it doesn’t.
Many of us are struggling with trauma in different shapes and forms.
As an energy healer, I help my clients with rewriting their money stories for abundance.
A huge part of that is healing old pains and afflictions caused by other people.
These negative energies act as blockages that stop the flow of abundance.
Many of my clients talk about physical and emotional abuse. Some even talk about their experiences with sexual abuse from the people they love and trust.
From an outsider’s perspective, it can be difficult to understand the burden of guilt and shame.
But for the victims, it means a lifetime of dealing with mental health issues, low self-worth, and self-esteem. It also leads to doubting their abilities and decisions.
That’s why no matter how good they are at what they do, they can’t seem to find the abundance and happiness they desire.
That’s how important self-love is when it comes to abundance.
It helps us face the shadows that we think hold us down. Facing and embracing this darkness allows forgiveness.
The act of forgiveness brings peace. It also lets go of the shame and fear of judgment.
And when you do, your confidence grows and true abundance begins.
Self-Love affirmations to boost your confidence
Affirmations are a great way to rewire your brain into thinking more positive thoughts.
Our thoughts can quickly become our realities. And negative scripts can easily become self-fulfilling prophecies.
Self-love affirmations is a great way to combat the negative self-talk we’ve been so used to.
Positive statements can help speed up the process of rewiring your brain. It trains your brain to make you more susceptible to change.
Research showed that people who spend even a few minutes saying affirmative statements perform better.
Affirmation statements also help relieve stress. Studies also mention how it helps lower the risk of mental issues like depression and low-self esteem.
Here are some powerful self-love affirmations you can use to boost your confidence.
- I am enough.
- I have the power to change my world.
- I let go of negative self-talk.
- My life is a place of happiness and love.
- I am not my mistakes.
- I radiate love, peace, and happiness.
- I choose not to take things personally.
- I release any need for misery and suffering.
- I radiate confidence, self-respect, and inner harmony.
- I choose to be grateful for all that I have.
- I am powerful beyond my wildest dreams
- I am not afraid to feel my feelings.
- My voice is valuable and my opinion matters.
- My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive, and prosperous thoughts.
- I consciously release the past and live only in the present.
- My relationship with my body is one of perfect harmony.
- Even though I don’t feel worthy right now, I know deep down that I am worthy of love, forgiveness, and healing.
- I see my struggles as opportunities to grow and learn.
- I embrace my flaws knowing that nobody is perfect.
You can check our more self-love quotes that resonate with you here.
Five Self-Love Exercises You Can Do Today
Here’s something you need to know about self-love. It’s never selfish.
Your health and well-being are as important as anybody else’s.
Know that you shouldn’t feel guilty about setting boundaries or saying no to things you’re not comfortable doing.
There’s also no shame in admitting to mistakes and wanting to take a break.
Here are five easy self-love exercises you can do today.
Set time blocks to do things that you love.
Indulge yourself and take time to do what makes you happy.
Learn how to cook. Do arts and crafts.
Read a good book. Sleep.
Don’t mind what everyone thinks and do what makes you happy.
Discover your triggers
You can’t control how others act around you. But you have the power to choose how to respond.
That’s why self-awareness is power.
It’s easier for you to predict your behavior and take control of your emotional response when you know what triggers you.
Practice journaling and forgiveness exercises.
Journaling has tons of benefits.
it gives you a space for writing ideas without fear of judgment. It also helps you keep track of your responses and behaviors.
Check out this quick video about the power of journaling here.
Mind what you eat.
What you eat has a huge impact on how your body responds.
That’s why you need to be careful with what you feed it.
Here’s a great article about food and self-love from Huffpost.com
Invest in your personal and professional growth.
Spending time and money for your growth is one of the best ways to practice self-love.
Attend workshops, join classes, and get to meet new people with similar interests as yours.
Increase your worth by investing in masterminds and personal coaching.
Learn new skills and participate in discussions.
Know that your opinions matter and your voice is as important as others.
Go beyond your comfort zone and see how you grow.
Embracing your ugly can do wonders for your self-worth and self-esteem.
And practicing self-love is always good for our mental health especially during challenging times.
Get more tips about self-love and embracing your ugly from my podcast here.
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