Ah, New Year’s resolutions—the promises we make with all the hope and excitement of a fresh start. “This is the year I’ll finally get in shape.” “This is the year I’ll save more money.” “This is the year I’ll stop procrastinating.”
Sound familiar?
Every January, millions of us sit down with a pen and paper or our favorite app, creating a list of all the things we want to achieve in the year ahead. There’s a certain magic in those moments—a sense of possibility and a belief that this year will be different.
But let’s be honest: how many of those goals are still standing strong by February? Studies show that nearly 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by mid-February. And if you’ve ever set a resolution and watched it quietly fade into the background of your busy life, you’re not alone.
So why is it so hard to stick to them? And more importantly, what can you do differently this year? Let’s break it down.
1. Resolutions Often Focus on Surface-Level Actions
Most resolutions are about what we want to do, like going to the gym more often, cutting back on sugar, or saving more money. But they rarely address the deeper reasons why we haven’t been able to do those things already.
For example, if you’ve been struggling to “spend less,” the problem might not be the budgeting app you’re using. It could be rooted in emotional habits, like spending as a form of comfort, or in limiting beliefs like “I’ll never have enough money.”
The truth is, unless we address the underlying why behind our habits, our efforts to change often feel forced and unsustainable. It’s like putting a band-aid on a wound that needs stitches—it might cover things up for a while, but it won’t hold in the long run.
2. We Forget That Motivation Fades
At the start of the year, motivation is running high. You’re excited about the possibilities, envisioning a new and improved version of yourself. But motivation is like a spark—it’s bright and energizing, but it burns out quickly.
When that initial excitement fades (and it will), what’s left? For most people, the answer is: nothing. Without a solid foundation of discipline, structure, and self-belief, resolutions tend to crumble under the weight of everyday life.
It’s not about being “bad” at sticking to goals—it’s about understanding that motivation alone isn’t enough to fuel long-term change.
3. Unresolved Emotional Blocks Sabotage Our Progress
This is the sneaky one. If you’re carrying unresolved fears, doubts, or limiting beliefs, they’ll act as silent saboteurs when you try to make changes.
Have you ever found yourself falling back into old habits, even when you knew better? That’s often your subconscious trying to keep you in the “safe zone” it knows. Change feels risky to the brain, even when it’s positive, so it resists.
It’s not that you’re lazy or undisciplined—your energy is simply out of alignment with your goals. Until you address the emotional blocks holding you back, progress will always feel like an uphill battle.
What to Do Instead
So how can you actually set goals that stick? Here are three powerful shifts to try:
1. Focus on Your “Why”
Instead of just saying, “I want to lose weight,” ask yourself why that matters. Is it about feeling more confident? Living longer to see your kids grow up? Having the energy to travel and experience life?
When your goals are tied to a deeper purpose, they feel more meaningful. And that sense of purpose makes it easier to stay committed when challenges arise.
2. Build Habits, Not Grand Plans
Big resolutions can feel overwhelming, which is why breaking them down into small, actionable habits works so much better. Instead of vowing to “save $5,000” this year, start with saving $5 a day or setting up an automatic transfer to your savings account.
These small actions might feel insignificant, but they add up over time. And with every bit of progress, you’ll build the momentum and confidence to keep going.
3. Clear the Energy Holding You Back
This is the game-changer. If you’ve tried everything and still feel stuck, it’s worth looking at the emotional blocks and limiting beliefs standing in your way.
Clearing trapped energy—whether it’s fear, self-doubt, or past failures—allows you to approach your goals with a clean slate. Imagine how much lighter and more aligned you’d feel without the weight of old patterns holding you back.
Ready to Start Fresh?
If you’re tired of setting goals only to feel frustrated or stuck, it’s time to try something different. This Sunday, I’m hosting a free live Energy Clearing Session to help you release the limiting beliefs and mental blocks keeping you from the life you want.
🗓 Date: Sunday, February 2nd
🕕 Time: 6pm UK (1pm ET, 10am PT)
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This isn’t just about resolutions—it’s about creating space for the abundance, clarity, and success you deserve in 2025. Let’s make this the year you finally feel aligned with your goals.
I’ll see you there!