Do you evaluate your life?
Do you reassess your purpose in life?
Has your purpose in life deteriorated and gone off target?
This episode helps us take reflections and reevaluate our lives
Reassessing Life
We’re talking about your life vision or your life purpose and why it’s important to constantly reassess where you are, according to your life mission and its purpose.
I am going to share my story with you as usual, My birthdays are always a bit of a sad moment for me,I am always like “Oh gosh! I’ve lived another year and I haven’t done XYZ” . As optimistic as I am for some bizarre reason, I always become very pessimistic on my birthday.
I’ve been aware that I never really liked this feeling because the very next day, I reassess the day and I’m like “why was I so sad?” And I have to give credit to a cousin of mine that I am very close to, she’s in Canada and I love how she celebrates herself and her birthdays, She’s constantly telling me that I should celebrate myself and I’m spreading the gospel, treat yourself the way you would treat a child or a friend or a loved one because why not. I absolutely agree with this 110% which is why I made it a point to make sure that I celebrate myself this year.
My birthday fell on a weekend. So, I went out with some of my college friends from way back, One of them is someone I’ve known since I was 16 and the other, since I was 11. They’ve been with me through thick and thin, for decades and we had a wonderful time together.I really enjoyed myself and I got myself pampered. Those who know me know putting a lipstick on is such a big deal. I’m usually without makeup, the most I’ll do is probably put a lipgloss on. Anyway, the point is I went off to dinner with them and I had a wonderful time. I stayed out till about 10 O’clock which is pretty late for me, we ended up having dinner, dessert and just sitting there chatting around, reminiscing about old times, just generally connecting with each other as we haven’t seen each other for quite some time.
So the whole weekend, I did nothing relating to work besides saying thank you to people who wished me happy birthday, I had given myself the time and space to just really enjoy my time and truly take care of myself, then I got myself some flowers, I was so kind to myself which was very different from the previous years.
Lessons
Learn to grow
Learn to celebrate your life.
I’ve celebrated myself and it shows on my pictures that I look years younger compared to 2015, seven years ago which was probably the worst time in my life. That was just a year prior to me leaving my husband and I feeling horrible. There was a sadness about me that was just undeniable. I mean, now I’m vibrant and happy and smiling, It’s amazing. I’m celebrating my life but this also means, when I sat down, assessed my life and I was following my purpose, I was looking at my life and thinking of how blessed I am and how happy I am.
Normally I would beat myself up and focus on how far away I am from my goals and what I haven’t been able to achieve but today, I actually sat down and celebrated how far I’ve come along and how much I’ve achieved and where I’m going.
Strategies For Reassessing Your Life.
You have to have a vision for your life and I do and I have a very strong and high inspirational vision for my life. It’s amazing and it scares me at times as well. When you have a vision or purpose for your life, your life goals and how you live it.
Flexibility Of Plans
When you start flying your plane for instance, from London to New York, it’s never going to be exactly on target so you have to steer it back into the mode because the winds will come and try to shift your sail, that’s how your life is. When you have a solid vision of where you’re starting and where you’re going, Let’s say you are making $10,000 a month at the moment and your goal is to make a million a month but you don’t know where or how you’re going to get the one million a month but you know how to get to a hundred then thousands. When you’re constantly making sure that you are taking actions that bring you a hundred or thousands. In between this, life will happen hence the wind factor, you might get distracted. In my case, it was providing my son with his iPhone 11 plus. You have to make room for changes to achieve your desired results, plans change over time so you have to be flexible.
What is more important to me?
What is the most important thing for me? What do I need to be focusing on?
These are the questions I ask myself to redirect me and bring back my focus on where it needs to be. Even when you have strayed from your goals, you know your plans can be brought back on course, this is your life, your plan is your life.You need to be able to make changes where need be, this is why it’s very important to reassess multiple times.
Where am I headed?
How am I gonna get there?
Am I doing everything correctly in the way that it needs to be done?
You enumerate what’s more important and get it done.
Vision
An author once said that your vision remains the same, your way, your methodology may change. Your vision depends entirely on your ambitions, what kind of money you want to make, Let’s say your vision is to go from 10,000 a month to a hundred to a million monthly, your course of getting to a million monthly may change your service,don’t beat up yourself if you are not where you think you are supposed to be yet,I celebrate myself for overcoming the obstacles in my way, So if you were to take your income to a million monthly, how would you do that? You may be thinking of continuing your way. If you have a service based product maybe you’re going to increase your service charges or you’re going to create a separate business, selling either on e-commerce or you’re going to go into a separate business altogether if you’re into manufacturing.
The point is your methodology and plan needs to be flexible enough to change and alter over time but your vision and mission remains constant, your vision is to make a million a month and therefore you will change the methodology as long as you can to get the desired result, for example, I was on track to earn multiple six figures on a monthly basis yet we had the curveball thrown in with the Facebook algorithm and I’m not the only one facing this. A lot of other people have also, we’ve been talking to quite a few other people who are on the online spaces. Facebook has thrown the ads out of the window, it’s completely crazy. With the iOS update we’ve had loads of issues navigating there so the plan has to change.You cannot rely on Facebook, there are other methodologies and other ways to bring in leads. The plan changes but your goal still remains the same and in my case it actually pivoted completely and I thought to myself that I want to not only have an online business, I need to diversify and focus on other businesses, have assets and grow my income.
So my plan changes over time with my businesses, I’m constantly reassessing it.
Where do I want to be?
Where am I at the moment?
Being clear about my visions
Focusing on my highlight
What’s important
Getting Rid Of Guilt
I’m really proud of how I have progressed, even in my personal life, I’ve made a lot of headway on some personal matters. In terms of managing guilt of being a good mom because I felt like unless my kids had a father who is actively in their lives, I was not being a good mother. I had to force or coerce my ex-husband to be present and somehow I took on the responsibility of enforcing he was a good dad and they had a father, thinking it made me a good mom but that’s completely bull shit.
That’s not my responsibility, it is his responsibility to be a father or not. I let go of that toxic idea, he gets to choose and that doesn’t make me a bad mom either way. I feel so relieved and free from that burden that I was carrying around and I really felt this year that I’m actually the best mother I could have been.
I am a great mom, my daughter gave me this lovely message that I’m a source of inspiration to her and I know for a fact that when I gave a talk at my son’s school, the boys were really impressed, these are 11 year old boys, of course we all connected with our love for cars. They paid me a lot of compliments and my son was very proud of me. My children are really proud of me, we have a fantastic bond. I’m a great mother, I’m doing everything that I can possibly do for them that is within my reach.
Today I sat here, not intentionally but slowly mulling over my life in terms of what has happened over the last year and I realized how much I’ve done, how much I’ve achieved and how wonderful I am. The hilarious part of this is that this year has been the least rewarding financially when compared to the others. The other year’s, I’ve made more money, this year we have experienced various obstacles, Money has not been as grand as it was previously, yet I feel more fulfilled and happier because of the things that I’ve accomplished in my personal life, in my mindset, my personal family, life has been a lot more grander.
So when I look at my vision for my life, the financial aspect, I may not be where I want to be according to my goals but ” Am I comfortable? Am I happy? Am I able to do everything that I need to do for my kids? ” The answer is Yes. So you have to assess your life on a regular basis and keep an eye on your vision because if you don’t, it’s very easy to get distracted. If you get distracted and don’t bring it back on course in time and very quickly, you’re gonna end up in a completely different direction because you’re on a different trajectory.
God’s Grace
You also need to allow miracles to happen to you, some different activities through God or the universal energy. So if your plans are so rigid, it has to happen just your way, you have to give room for miracles and allow divine energy some leeway to create these miracles for you to have those quantum leaps to move forward in the direction of your vision or your goals.
Conclusion
Reassessing one’s life on a daily basis and focusing on what is important helps you in being fulfilled and makes you happy. Enjoying God’s miracle and love, getting rid of unnecessary guilt, having a clear vision and being focused on your goals gets you to the place where you need or want to be.