We are looking at pain and how it’s important on your journey to becoming wealthy. I came up with this topic because of my own challenges recently with my injury and also some businesses that have not been as profitable as they should be.

It really got me looking around, all those people who’ve gone before me on this success path, we always stand on the shoulder of giants and if you look at the life journey of anyone who’s been highly successful, you would realize how much pain they endured before they tasted success and even as they have become successful, they still had episodes of severe pain and it causes you to question whether God gets some kind of sadistic pleasure in causing us pain and the answer is no, absolutely not.

God is good all the time. I love that phrase, I really resonate with it because God is great all the time. We are currently in Ramadan and fasting at the moment. When you’re fasting, your spiritual energy is heightened, I’ve been reassessing and thinking about various things especially during the hajib…..a midnight prayer.

So I’d be sitting there reading the Hajj and contemplating about various aspects of my life and while meditating, I try to work out what the purpose of pain is, because pain has a huge purpose and I was just trying to get my head around it especially as it relates to one aspect of my life that I was really struggling with. Again, I have to admit I’ve begun to struggle with this aspect of my life again.

Discovering the purpose of my pain

I share my life so openly and candidly with you all because I’m a work in progress and I’m not standing on some mantle and talking down to you. I’m here amongst you telling you what I aspire to be and where I fall short so that you can avoid my mistakes and also for you to have hope and learn with me along the journey.

So this is one aspect of my life that I was really questioning divine energy, I couldn’t figure out why this individual had come into my life, (he’s been out of my life of the last six years now) and I have forgiven him yet things pop up and wounds open up again because of his attitude towards his children and I couldn’t understand, We’re so opposites in every regard in terms of personality and integrity so I couldn’t work out why the divine energy would bring such an individual into my life to cause me so much pain, not just when we were together, but also as we have parted ways and being a devoted parent, I get hurt when my children hurt.

So as I was on my “God, why?” , I’m human and I’m having this physical experience and being emotional. Sometimes when we give into emotions, we are prone to low vibrational thoughts, but I am of the opinion that those times we need to seek guidance. As a child, my mother taught me that no one would value my tears as much as God will, so I only cry to my God and I think my tears are very precious, most of the time when I’m crying, it’s usually in a prayer.

Anyways I find that this prayer, the Islamic Salah, is a really deeply spiritual experience so I had just read the hajar, I was really emotional, crying and did a bit of playing the victim for five minutes and then I decided to meditate because I had about half an hour between then and Iftar, I already had the Suhoor food so I wasn’t going to eat any more apart from drinking water.

So I just sat on the praying mat and I meditated, During my meditation, I was just taken on this journey which is difficult for me to explain to you right now. It can only just be felt and sensed, it was almost like divine energy, God was listening to me and saying;

“Look, you are this amazing creative being and you have so much knowledge, get up, look at what the purpose is. I never do anything without purpose, look at what I’ve done for you, and see the reason for this happening to you.”

I really believe everything happens all for you and not to you but five minutes ago when I was questioning and I had fallen to the trap of feeling like things were happening or happened to me and this was when I realized the essential elements that pain played in shaping my character, in me being who I am and taking me along the journey where I’m going, I know where I’m going and I know the kind of character I have and there’s no way that I could be this person or could achieve those things that I’m looking to achieve had I not gone through that pain and this was really beautifully highlighted to me and I was filled with a sense of gratitude.

I’ve shared this story before, multiple times and I’m going to share it again. This story was brought to my attention during this meditation and it is of butterflies, when a butterfly was coming out of its cocoon and this man was watching and timing for hours as the butterfly just battled away and tried to come out of the cocoon and was just really struggling, The body was too big and it really couldn’t come out and the man felt sorry for the butterfly so he thought to help, unknown to him that pain the butterfly was going through was essential and after helping the butterfly, it was severely harmed.

Let me explain. So he went and helped open a bit more of the cocoon which meant that the butterfly was able to come out easily but the problem now was that usually when the butterfly comes out of this cocoon, the fluid in the body is pushed out into the wings and that’s how the wings actually take form and the butterfly is able to fly, otherwise the body’s too heavy and the wings are too weak.

So this pain that the butterfly goes through coming out of its cocoon is essential in order for the butterfly to fly and that just hit me and made me realize how all the pain that I’m going through is just building my wings and the stronger the wings, the faster and higher I will soar. In other for me to grow and elevate to the levels that I wish to and have on my vision board then this pain that I’m still going through on certain days and aspects of my business or personal life is absolutely essential for my wings to be formed, for me to develop the personality and character needed in order to achieve my goals.

Inspiration of my pain

When my accident happened recently, I wasn’t ungrateful for that, it highlighted to me that that was a test of my loyalty and faithfulness in Divine energy and I passed with flying colors. What I questioned the divine energy about was this individual and I really wish him all the luck and send him love and blessings because even though what he may have done to me can be classified as evil but it doesn’t matter how much evil he’s done to me or evil intentions he has towards me, those have been for my benefit, the pains that he caused me and continues to cause me through various ways is essential for my growth and this is why even though the divine energy can make it easier, is allowing me to come out of my cocoon myself, so I can develop my wings so I could fly.

The inspiration I got during that meditation was how easy it is for the divine energy to make things easy for me but then I will not develop the character that I need in order to get to the levels I want to get to. If my life was as easy as I wanted it to be and things happened the way it is in other people’s lives (because I find that other people have it a lot easier than I do), I would not have this character, also they don’t have my ambitions, our paths are different. So in order for me to achieve these things, to become this person that Gull needs to become and achieve all the goals that I set up for myself, I have to go through this pain and this is why the divine energy at times throws you in the pit of fire for you to grow through certain things.

There’s a saying in my culture, I’m from the India-Pakistan culture and my mother used to say to me that gold goes through the pitch of fire to be purified and that’s the only way it can get rid of impurities, this is no saying that God sometimes puts you through the pit of fire to let go of the impurities which are your bad habits, your weakness, the playing victim tendencies, as I had. You need to shred these aspects of yourself to become this amazing new version of yourself, capable and worthy of achieving these goals you have set for yourself. Everything you want for yourself already exists here, in some form but in order for you to bring it into your physical 3D world, you have to be a certain person. It’s not about looking like it but about actually being that individual.

The awareness of my pain and embracing it

The awareness that I got during that short meditation in the morning was the fact that everything that I’m going through at the moment is making me who I need to be, I am becoming the person who will achieve these goals and everything that’s happening in my life is just helping me to acquire the characteristics that I need in order to have the goals that I have set for myself.

So when I look upon my life, everything that’s happened in my life has been to shape my character, and I have to be grateful for it because when I became really aware of what God was doing in my life, how he has literally been standing here like a teacher, on the side, ensuring that I go through certain things in order to develop the person that I am, it just filled me up with so much gratitude because once again something that I always say that everything is happening for you not to you.

So all the pain that I’ve gone through, all the pain that I’m currently going through and one of the biggest pains was the loss of my mother. I lost my mother at the age of 21/22, a really young age, I’ve lived on this planet more years than she was with me. She was my only parent and I still miss her every single day and all the time yet the pain of losing her has built me and has given me strength too. And if she was in my life, I would not be here in this position, she wouldn’t let me get married to both of the people I did but besides that, my life would be a lot easier in many ways. When I lost my mother, my life became one of hardship and it did for a while seemed to be on the hamster wheel.

I still go from one thing to another and if somebody was looking at my life from the outside point of view, someone who knew things of my life would be wondering, okay what’s next. My life is simple half of the time and most of the time I look upon it as divine energy’s blessings because my life has shaped me to be who I am and I’m extremely proud of myself and my achievements, the way I help my clients, the way I am able to help people, the way I think, the way I behave and I still have a long way to go.

There’s so much more improvement that I can make and I definitely will but as of today, I’m very proud of myself and I like who I am and I’m becoming the person I need to be in order to achieve everything I want to achieve. This is why pain is so essential for your growth especially if you’re becoming wealthy because when you want to become wealthy and you want to do it the right way, you will experience obstacles and face challenges and sometimes, you may find yourself to be very lonely. I don’t know anybody who is as ambitious or works as hard as I do and I work smart too and I’m really focused on two things. One is my children, their education and the other is my businesses.

Therefore, I don’t have as much time as I would like to spend time with friends or with other people as I’m really focused on what I need to do.

CONCLUSION

The pains that I have gone through in my life are helping me to become the person I need to be to achieve what I want to achieve, so I hope that today’s episode makes sense to you and that you can get a glimpse of my understanding of pain and how essential it is for you to grow and be the kind of person that you need to be to achieve the kind of things you want to achieve.